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How to end things?

  • 20-01-2013 11:17pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I know this sounds very simple but I'm having a really issue with figuring out the easiest and most sensitive way of doing this.
    Ok, here goes, a number of months ago I met someone new, had been single for a while after being in a very difficult and destructive relationship.
    Anyway, this new guy was so much that my ex wasn't and I thought that everything should be fantastic, but...
    I believe there has to be chemistry between people for things to work, and... well, there isn't any. He is someone that I know would give me anything I want, but it's just not enough.
    Anyway, how do I broach the subject with him and tell him it's just not working??
    I know these things should be done quickly, like ribbing off a band aid, but I hate the idea of having that conversation.
    He's a really great guy, so I don't want to hurt him, but.... he's just not the right guy for me.


Comments

  • #2
    sffc
    Closed Accounts Posts: 433 ✭✭sffc


    Tell him straight and leave no doubts in his mind. Not easy but otherwise you are being cruel.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Tell him what you are telling us now. He would appreciate your honesty. It's not a nice situation to be in but he will be ok as you guys are not going out that long.Life goes on. I did the same to someone and I felt so much better after telling him and you should say it to him the sooner the better.


  • #4
    wayne0308
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 428 ✭✭wayne0308


    Next time you are together you need to try and get a moment when you're both alone, just tell him you need to talk and then just say it. Be sure to not leave any doubt by sounding unsure of yourself. I know that it's hard on you as well as him but ya have to do it.

    I've been on the opposite side to your situation before so I'll echo what the previous poster said, he really will appreciate you being straight up with him and being honest.


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