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Girl/boy dilemma

  • 18-01-2013 4:34pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    A few months ago I met a girl I and we hit it off from the start. I was full sure there was going to be something romantic between us but after we went on our first date – we don’t live in the same town – she said she just wanted to be friends. Since then we’ve texted and e-mailed back and forth but for a long time, I held out some hope that she might change her mind. I know now that she won’t, or at least, I’m pretty sure she won’t, but I don’t want to keep reading into her texts and e-mails something that isn’t there, which I have had a tendency to do. The problem is that when I go 2 or 3 days without any contact, she’ll get in touch under some pretence or other and the whole thing will start over again.

    I think she’s a great person and under different circumstances, I’d love to stay as friends. But I don’t think that’s possible as long as I continue to fancy her. But I’d feel bad if I just ceased all contact so I guess what I’m trying to ask is what’s the best way of going about this. Do I explain it to her and look like an idiot and weirdo or do I just let it slide and eventually she’ll stop contact too?


Comments

  • #2
    judgefudge
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 915 ✭✭✭judgefudge


    I guess it's just like phasing anyone out. If you know you have no chance with her, which is how it seems. I've sadly done it to friends in the past... Just reduce how quickly and how often you reply to texts, don't answer calls. Too busy to meet. Keep convos short.

    Either go that route or just say listen we can't be friends while I still have feelings for you. Up to you!


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