Friend Conundrum

pictures2u

Hi. I've been friends with a girl for about 5 / 6 years now. Close friends. The problem is that for the last year or two I've had feelings for her more than friendship, but partly due to her living a distance away and also due to the fact that we have been strictly friends for so long I didn't do anything about it. Now when I see her / talk to her I miss her a lot afterwards, and feel that I should at least broach the subject. I'm quite nervous about this, as obviously I'll completely take her off guard given that we've been friends for so long, but I feel like we're soul mates and should be more than just friends. I won't lump the full force of feelings on her, but might just broach the subject by wondering why it was we never actually became more than friends. I wouldn't be thinking about this if I didn't think that there was at least some chance of success,but of course still the stakes are still high. Just wondering should I take a chance and when we're together next time kiss her, or just broach the subject? I've got mixed advice, and feelings about what I should do, with a part of me saying that I should just continue the friendship as it is, but then the thought of not having at least tried is bugging me. Because we're both so understanding of each other I don't think that it would be fatal to the friendship to at least just broach the subject. Just wondering has anyone had any experience of this sort of situation before? Bit of a mess really...

CaraMay

I used to have feelings like that (used to miss him after seeing him) for a friend but he was with someone else we now have a family and are very happy ) go for it

Lorna123

I think that you should just casually say to her that you were wondering how you never became closer than just friends as you get on so well together. I would not kiss her without being sure of how she would react. See what she says first.

ibarelycare

Has she ever given you any hint that she feels the same way? When you're together is there any playful flirting, prolonged looks, anything like that?

pictures2u

@ibarelycare: There have been, what I think (and hope are hints). According to some friends there are stares, particularly when I'm in the same room, but am talking to someone else. There have been hugs out of the blue too and one thing recently when someone asked if I was her boyfriend she replied "unfortunately not." I'd love to think that this was a hint, and not just a nicety to try and difuse the question, but I appreciate your replies, and think I'll casually breach the subject next time I see her.

ibarelycare

That sounds like a pretty good hint to me Go for it, talk to her about it. Hope it works out!

Lorna123

Wow!!!! if she said that you are half way there OP. Go for it !!!