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Husband called escorts

  • 17-01-2013 10:47am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    hi, I recently found out my husband made a series of late night calls while I was away with work. I checked the numbers and they are escorts! He is organising a stag for a friend. I asked him not to do any such thing and he promised he would not. I don't know what to think or do, I'm totally paralyzed. He is a loving husband but I have lost my trust in him. I'm not going to confront him, I don't want to jump to sudden decisions. I also have a moral dilemma, because if that is going to happen, there are going to be more females affected. Best thing is to wait and watch, I guess. I can't talk to anybody about this.


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  • #2
    CarMe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 677 ✭✭✭CarMe


    What do you mean by wait and watch? Are you still together? Is he still organising the stag? Are you worried the stag and the escorts are connected?
    Little bit confused by your post, you poor thing what a horrible thing to discover!
    Did your husband meet with an escort? Have you confronted him?


  • #3
    Neyite
    Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,948 Mod ✭✭✭✭Neyite


    I thought the norm was to hire a stripper for a stag, not prostitutes.

    Firstly, you asked him and he agreed not to and then went behind your back.

    Secondly, I'm assuming when you mention other women being affected, that you mean you know the partners of them men going on the stag, so there again, I dont see how you could face them knowing that at least one of them used a prostitute on the stag.

    Neither of those really would sit well with me. And thats before you even wonder if your husband would have sex with her.

    But, if you are not going to confront him, what do you want to happen in this situation?


  • #4
    Toast4532
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,613 ✭✭✭Toast4532


    Why won't you confront your husband? If I had any suspicion about my boyfriend sleeping/being involved with any other woman, prostitute or not, I would confront him and would seek to have the issue resolved.

    There would of course be trust issues, and other issues within the relationship if he wanted to cheat, something would be wrong somewhere and I would need to confront him to find answers and also to try and resolve issues and rebuild our relationship, if either of us wanted to rebuild our relationship.

    As for other wives/girlfriends/partners or others going on the stag, I think they would deserve to know if their partners had cheated or were intending to cheat - I know if my boyfriend had cheated or was intending to cheat, I'd want to know and I'd thank whoever told me. I certainly wouldn't hate them or 'see them as the person who told', I'd be grateful for them telling me, but I'd hate my partner even more for putting them in such an awkward and horrible situation.


  • #5
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    Sorry op but loving husbands don't order hookers... You are assuming its for the stag?!?!?

    You really need to talk to him about this. It would not be my cup of tea and I would not be able to stick with him knowing this. Am sorry this is happening to you but turning a blind eye won't make it go away.


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