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getting back together with ex

  • 17-01-2013 08:37AM
    #1
    outoftheblue
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10 ✭


    Myself and my ex broke up 3 months ago after 4 years. We've been in quite a bit of contact and spent a good bit of time together in the last two weeks and have discussed getting back together. The issue which caused us to break up is no longer issue and has been resolved.
    However we can't agree on what to do now, he would prefer to keep spending ti together and see what happens where as I would prefer to make it more official, officially get back together and tell people and get on with it as I am worried if we are too casual I will up just end up hurt again.

    I would appreciate any opinion/advice from anyone who has been in this situation before, thanks!


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  • #2
    outoftheblue
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10 ✭outoftheblue


    outoftheblue wrote: »
    Myself and my ex broke up 3 months ago after 4 years. We've been in quite a bit of contact and spent a good bit of time together in the last two weeks and have discussed getting back together. The issue which caused us to break up is no longer issue and has been resolved.
    However we can't agree on what to do now, he would prefer to keep spending ti together and see what happens where as I would prefer to make it more official, officially get back together and tell people and get on with it as I am worried if we are too casual I will up just end up hurt again.

    I would appreciate any opinion/advice from anyone who has been in this situation before, thanks!



    sorry I should add that the "seeing eachother and see what happens" involves us seeing eachother exclusively, noone else involved.


  • #3
    2rkehij30qtza5
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,476 ✭✭✭2rkehij30qtza5


    If getting back together then I always think you must do things at the pace of the person who wants to take it slowly.
    If things are right between you, you will still be there when things become more 'official' again. If you rush him then things might never work out. My advice in this situation....go slow.


  • #4
    yermandan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,068 ✭✭✭yermandan


    What was the issue and are you certain it is resolved?


  • #5
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    I'm not sure if this issue should be so easily dismissed, especially if it was the cause of the break up in the first place.

    You'd want to be very clear on that, or trying again could be pointless. I know you're keen on getting things back on track, but again, if this thing split you up I would tread cautiously. On the face of what you've said, taking your time on this might be the best option.


  • #6
    outoftheblue
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10 ✭outoftheblue


    Abi wrote: »
    I'm not sure if this issue should be so easily dismissed, especially if it was the cause of the break up in the first place.

    You'd want to be very clear on that, or trying again could be pointless. I know you're keen on getting things back on track, but again, if this thing split you up I would tread cautiously. On the face of what you've said, taking your time on this might be the best option.


    We definitely haven't dismissed the issue but I think we do need to clarify that we are on the same page with where things are going.

    I guess you are right there is no quick fix, if we both want the same thing it is probably best to take it slow and make sure any issues are resolved and build up the trust and relationship again.


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  • #7
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    outoftheblue wrote: »
    I guess you are right there is no quick fix, if we both want the same thing it is probably best to take it slow and make sure any issues are resolved and build up the trust and relationship again.

    Definitely. If you're both in it for the long haul any niggling issues need to be resolved. I'm sure that his want to take things a little slower might have taken you aback a little, but I don't believe it is for any other reason that to make sure that you can re-build your relationship. Sensible guy :)


    best of luck!


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