mixed signals - is he into me or not

STUBBORNGIRL

I know this is a hard one to explain but I have had feelings for my boss for sometime. to cut a very long story short - most nights we end up in each others company and strange things happen! he will say things that imply he likes me - but when it comes to actions he just doesnt seem to be able to prove it! There has been loads of instances where he has asked me to kiss him and i have given him kiss on his cheek ( dont want to go for lips for fear of rejection) signals are not easy to read.on our christmas party outing i got alittle more confident and i asked him to kiss me back to which he returned the cheek kiss and then continued planting kisses everywhere except for my lips! we were hugging at this stage! i asked him what was he doing? as in i wanted more than a kiss on cheek or forehead!

its so hard to decipher!this has not been an isolated night out and we have ended up together a lot of nights where we would end up getting food together etc.

someone asked me if he could have aspergers and to be honest there are some symptoms there but i dont know if it is just shyness on this part!

he does have trouble showing emotion and finds it hard to apologise even if he is in the wrong for something! but he loves social events! the guys in work have asked us what is going on - and as there isnt anything going on the answer is always nothing! one person did point out to me that he would be hard work and he doesnt have a clue how to chat another woman up!

i just need some advice on how i should move forward with this!its soul destroying because we do get on really well and i do like him so much!
IS he worth persuing or is he just too much hard work!
appreciate the advise

judgefudge

Ok two things. Might he be holding back because he is your boss?!

Also, if you like him so much why don't you make the first move instead of waiting for him to do it?!

STUBBORNGIRL

judgefudge wrote: »

Ok two things. Might he be holding back because he is your boss?!

Also, if you like him so much why don't you make the first move instead of waiting for him to do it?!

I know what you mean but i have given him all the signals and i just more or less thought if he had picked up on them he owuld have initiated something more!every night we are out we get a little bit closer and i really believe me am caught up about not just asking him if he wanted to kiss me on the lips'! this is the only way i would make the first move!i could never go in for the kill - been stung an odd time and that has killed my confidence!

i dont believe it has anything to do with him being myboss cause he has made references before that there is nothing wrong with a boss dating an employee as long as there were boundaries!

i hope i have explained it enough - i dont want to go too much into detail of the specifics as i would hate for anyone toread this and link it to me

what do you think would be the best move to make next - i mean how should i go about doing it without going in for the kill

judgefudge

I don't know really. I mean I think it might be a bit unfair to insinuate he has aspergers because he hasn't kissed you? He might be shy, he might have been "stung in the past" and not want to go in for the kill.

It's hard to know. But if you want something in this life ya gotta go for it. Otherwise you'll just have regrets.

STUBBORNGIRL

Thanks - I understand what u are saying and I think u are right! I'm just going to make a move the next night we are out!
Just one more thing - how do u think it would be best to make a move on someone so shy with least embarrassment and so I can redeem myself if it all does not work out to plan!

Shoukd I just grab him and kiss him!( would possibly die if he went mad)
Shoukd j jsut ask him what is going on between us?

Or any other idea u have would be good

If it all went wrong I don't think going to work would be a problem since we are both professional and it woudknt affect out positions but Im kind of shy aswell and would rather limit the risk of embarrassment!

Thanks so much I really do appreciate ur responses!

CaraMay

Is he single?

STUBBORNGIRL

CaraMay wrote: »

Is he single?

Oh god yeah he is single - I wouldn't even consider any of this if he weren't!

Roisy7

Em, he's your boss? So you'll be seeing him in work and outside? And if ye break up you either face an awkward situation every day, or the dole queue?

If I were you I would make sure you have a back-up job in the pipeline or I would just go for someone else.