Losing my Mojo..

Mickey Dazzler

I have recently turned 32. I have been in two relationships in the last 5 years. One straight after the other. So have not been on the scene scoring with other women for quite some time.

My early to mid 20s were pretty hectic love life wise... Back then I was a very confident, good looking guy with lots of balls. I was never in serious relationships and jumped from one pretty girl to next. Life was good and nobody was hurt... I then met a girl and settled down. We broke up and I met another and that has ended now a few months ago. The break ups were fine and I am still good friends with both of the recent exs.... However....

I am now back on the scene and just cant get my mojo back. I feel I just don't have the confidence anymore and seem to read situations completely wrong lately.

Two recent example: One girl I knew was asking me out all the time when I was going out with my last girlfriend so when we broke up I got back in touch and she seemed delighted and wanted to meet up for dinner. Had a nice dinner and went to kiss her.... nothing...

Next example: a girl I have just started to work with was giving me all the signs or so I thought... I asked her out to dinner and was shot down in a blaze of glory..... totally mis read it...

These girls were both around the mid 20s mark and very hot. So now I am really starting to question myself. Were these girls out of my league? Once upon a time they would have very much been in my league..

I know I have put on a bit of weight in the last ten years but not a lot. from 75kg to 82kg... with a bit of a paunch..

But I just don't feel like the same guy I was only 7 years ago. Now I go out with my friends who are the same age and they are milling through the ladies like it was going out of fashion and I am just sitting there feeling awkward where once I would have been leading the charge..

Everything else in my life is great. I have been promoted to a great position well before I expected... I have my own place.... very little debt.... lots of income....

But no Mojo....

Am I just getting old? I know I am not as confident as I was but back then I was a cocky dick.... now with a bit of maturity I was hoping to shed that trait but not to this extent....

Any other 30 somethings who have lost their touch with the opposite sex care to point me in the right direction?

thepeachyone28

I wish I could advise here, but I could have written this thread, except for I'm a girl! Couple of years younger, but almost a year out of a 5 year relationship, and same. When I met my now ex was when I was at my most confident with the opposite sex. Since leaving the relationship (my decision), I have had zero confidence. I find the notion of all that stuff so intimidating. not to mention the apparent lack of single guys my age, but it seems a different ball game anyway. 6 years ago, when I was last single, there were mostly single guys my age, now they all seem to be married, engaged, etc. I can't even muster the energy to seem interested a lot of the time in even looking, as I know how much it can hurt when it all goes wrong. I figure the next guy, if there ever is one, really had better be worth the trouble. Honestly though, I even find just getting the shift is daunting now! I'm interested to see what people have to say on this and wish I could advise. You're not alone OP if thats any consolation!

Monkey Allen

Micky, meet peachy

Abi

I'm sure you haven't lost your mojo at all Mickey, you've been in relationship land for a while and it might take a little while for you to get back on the horse, for a want of better words.

I haven't been single bar a few 'breaks' in my last relationship, and I was in that since I was 16. I wouldn't have a clue myself how to get into the dating scene seeing I've never really been on it before.

All I can suggest you do is go out for a few with your mates, join some clubs or get a new interest to open up your chances of meeting someone new. Just take your time about it and enjoy yourself. I know it seems like a cliché, but it's true - it often happens when you're not actively looking.

Once you're more settled in yourself and with singledom, you'll get your strut back. Good luck

Defiler Of The Coffin

<Snip>

Keep practicing and putting yourself out there man, things will pick up for you eventually.

Enjoy your new found freedom!