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no drive in me

  • 16-01-2013 6:51pm
    #1
    Lionel Messy
    Site Banned Posts: 612 ✭✭✭


    Counselling, doing that six months now, it's not working but I'm sticking with it. I just have a social phobia, a ffear of people. I have come to the conclusion it will aways be like that. I'm one of those guys you look at and feel embarrassed for me. I'm just awkward so I stay in. My little escapades into the real world only give temporary positivity and then I hardly leave the house for ages. I'm 25, come on. I was always a outcast in school. The quiet one no one gave a fuk about and with good reason


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  • #2
    smelloween
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 ✭smelloween


    Op, you sound like you're being extremely hard on yourself. It sounds like such a cliche, but you need to be your own best friend. You wouldn't put a friend down the way you are doing to yourself. Try and go easy on yourself and set yourself small achievable challenges until you grow in confidence. Be well :)


  • #3
    newuser30
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 83 ✭✭newuser30


    OP you say there's no drive in you. But without clear goals what exactly would you have to have that drive for? You need to establish what it is you want.
    Be very clear, sit down and really think what you want your life to be in say, 5 years. Do you want a house, what type of work do you want etc. Then establish what way you need to go about getting there. You seem to be focusing too much on whether people like you or not? Why! That's not the point of life, if it is you'll never be happy. What is your purpose, what do you want to get really good at? When you are clear on that then focus and work your *ss off. You can do it even if your not in a job right now. Even better because you have the time to plan how you will get there, do an internship, volunteer, whatever to get you into a place that interests and stimulates you. When you are focussed and passionate about something you will be more excited about life and therefore people will be naturally more interested in you. But thats not the goal, perhaps a positive outcome, but first you have to get more interested in life!
    We are living in a society that tells you that if you dont have the big personality then you don't matter. You seem to believe it yourself. Not true at all, the most interesting people I know are the quieter people, they're often more talented, intelligent and witty! You are not in school anymore, why do you care about popularity!
    So get out, start DOING things. Inactivity will cause depression, which will get worse and worse. The thing is it will be uncomfortable, sure. Sitting in away from the world is where you are comfortable that's why you do it. But the more you start moving the easier it will become. It takes effort to be happy. That's why so many people are depressed! They sit around not making decisions about their life instead of taking action!!


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