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Doubting

  • 15-01-2013 6:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I've never had a proper relationship, really inexperienced. I've only had feelings for 2 guys in my life, which I know is pretty low, but then I guess they were pretty strong and lasted years and different things kept either from developing and it was just unlucky. Since Oct. I've been going out with a guy who I get on really well with and we have similiar interests and I like just going out with him and spending time with him. 2 months in he told me he loved me, which did kind of scare me, I did feel that he had really fallen for me and wasn't lying. I knew I wasn't there and told him so. I know as well that I had recently been through a lot and wasn't looking for a relationship so was just taking it easy and see what happened and assumed like the rest it would just fall apart in a few weeks. When he went away for a few weeks I really did miss him and grew kind of jealous I guess when another girl kept commenting on his photos and I was really excited about him coming home.

    But then sometimes I feel unsure and begin to worry that I'm with him for the sake of finally being with someone and worry that I won't fall in love with him and just lead him on. I know the 2 other guys were friends for a long time before I had feelings for them so then I just wonder that maybe it just takes me longer. So lots of thoughts going through my head. Is it normal to question a relationship early in and have doubts? Everyone keeps telling me to give it time, that we look so good together, but I guess I just feel that puts more expectations and pressure on.


Comments

  • #2
    CaraMay
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    You are majorly over thinking this. Do you like him? Do you enjoy his company? Do you fancy him?


  • #3
    2rkehij30qtza5
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,476 ✭✭✭2rkehij30qtza5


    You need to stop over;thinking this!
    Just take it on face value for what it is.
    You like him...he likes/loves you
    You fancy him some way or other
    You enjoy his company
    You missed him when he was away
    You felt a little jealousy that some other girl might be 'interested'
    I don't think you need to feel any more than this!!!! Maybe if you were together for 2 years but you are only together for two months!!!!!

    People often have a misconstrued idea of love and how it should be. Not everyone gets that immediate lightning bolt live-at-first-sight feeling. It took my best friend over a year to 'fall in love' with her now husband when they started going out.

    Chill out about the whole thing. Enjoy his company & live in the 'now'. Stop worrying about others expectations & best of luck!!


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