Giving up a Module in college in the name of LOVE

dude93

I'm just about to start my 2nd semester in my final year of college. I have a crush on this girl in one of my tutorials but it clashes with a module lecture that I really want to do for 2nd semester... Instead of finding another tutorial group, I'm sacrificing that module just to be in the same tutorial group as my crush... I feel like Manny from Modern Family lol. Here's hoping she hasn't switched tutorials in order to get the same module lol!! Thoughts?

rainbows7

Madness.......was the first thought that came to my mind. Sorry...

Tetra

maryjoe wrote: »

Madness.......was the first thought that came to my mind. Sorry...

Me too.

wurzlitzer

dude93 wrote: »

I'm just about to start my 2nd semester in my final year of college. I have a crush on this girl in one of my tutorials but it clashes with a module lecture that I really want to do for 2nd semester... Instead of finding another tutorial group, I'm sacrificing that module just to be in the same tutorial group as my crush... I feel like Manny from Modern Family lol. Here's hoping she hasn't switched tutorials in order to get the same module lol!! Thoughts?

Please don't believe me you should do the module that you originally planned to do. It's madness to do otherwise.

This is a defining moment, road less travelled. I am guessing you are young you have your whole life ahead of you, you are going to meet loads of girls! Choosing the module that suits you will open doors of opportunities in the future especially when you are passionate about a subject. Believe me choosing to opt out of a module coz you fancy someone you will regret big time.

Try & woo this girl another way, ask her out on a date! Break the ice by asking her what's the tutorial group like without you ;D
Good Luck

judgefudge

That's a really ridiculous thing to do. If you like the girl, find another way to talk to her. Study what you want to study. This is really weird.

dude93

You shouldn't judge, judgefudge! Appropriate name! Crushes make us do craaaazy things... But I will definitely reconsider guys thanks!!!

judgefudge

dude93 wrote: »

You shouldn't judge, judgefudge! Appropriate name! Crushes make us do craaaazy things... But I will definitely reconsider guys thanks!!!

I'm not trying to judge you. I just think it's crazy. If she's in the tutorial surely she's around enough to get chatting to her some other way. But I went to a small college so I may be wrong. I can't imagine basing my module choices on a crush. It seems a little immature in fairness.

thier

Wtf? What about couples that aren't even in the same university? or workplace? or county? They are able to make it work....

You need to get out of your own head, mate.

rainbowtrout

dude93 wrote: »

You shouldn't judge, judgefudge! Appropriate name! Crushes make us do craaaazy things... But I will definitely reconsider guys thanks!!!

Ah here. You can ask her out or not ask her out or get talking to her or whatever. What are you going to do for the next semester? Sit watching her across the room in a tutorial for a subject you don't even want to be in and miss out on a subject you do want to study, which could have a knock on effect on your final grades and possibly on the career path you want to follow.

I agree with everyone else. Do the module you wanted to do. If you like her that much find another way to meet her.

I hope things work out for you and you get talking to her and she agrees to go on a date or whatever it is you want, but what if you get talking to her in 6 weeks time and it transpires that she's not interested/got a boyfriend etc, and you've missed out on the module that you wanted to do for that?? Craziness.

Esoteric_

I'm not being smart, but do you realise just how creepy and stalk-ey that is? If someone asked me out and later admitted to that, I'd be freaked the F out.

Don't throw away your preferred education options because you fancy someone ffs, just ask her out.

Difference Engine

LyndaMcL wrote: »

I'm not being smart, but do you realise just how creepy and stalk-ey that is? If someone asked me out and later admitted to that, I'd be freaked the F out.

Don't throw away your preferred education options because you fancy someone ffs, just ask her out.

I agree with this post 100%. It's bordering on ridiculous. You're in college, there is going to be plenty of chances to ask her out. Get into that other module if you can or in six months time you will be wondering WTF was I thinking.

CommanderC

Its only one module out of the year...what's that 5 credits ?

As long as you can get a good mark in the module i.e you don't despise the subject, then its not gonna have an impact on your final grade and I highly doubt it will be a career changing matter.....getting a degree in something doesn't necessarily define your career path anymore.......not these days anyway !!!

Go for it !! But make it count. Make sure you talk to her and move things along.

Otherwise it will have been for nothing

stargazer 68

CommanderC wrote: »

As long as you can get a good mark in the module i.e you don't despise the subject, then its not gonna have an impact on your final grade and I highly doubt it will be a career changing matter.....getting a degree in something doesn't necessarily define your career path anymore.......not these days anyway !!!

Go for it !! But make it count. Make sure you talk to her and move things along.

Otherwise it will have been for nothing

And what happens when he does that and she blows him out? He will then have to sit every day looking at her realising what a stupid thing he did. Stick with the modules OP and get chatting to her somewhere else!

ash23

OP, one of the worst things a person can do is give up things they want to do for the sake of a relationship.
We all know people who drop their friends and family and hobbies just because they are besotted with their new girl/fella. It's really unhealthy.

You're on a slippery slope by making such big sacrifices for someone you aren't even dating.
What would you be like if you were actually going out with her or someone else?
Don't do it OP.

MissFlitworth

dude93 wrote: »

I'm just about to start my 2nd semester in my final year of college. I have a crush on this girl in one of my tutorials but it clashes with a module lecture that I really want to do for 2nd semester...

Skipping a module you'd like to do to be in the same room as someone you had a crush on would be a bit of a rolleyes situation in any other year of college but in your final year it is flat out stupid. Find another way of spending time around her that won't have an affect on the final result of your degree!

AdamOHare

This is going to contradict everybody here. But my father skipped college *altogether* so he could get with my mother. He always said that college would wait, but that a girl you love wont (they werent even dating at the time so it was a bit of a gamble). But 40 years later they are still going good and strong.

Stavro Mueller

Yes but this isn't the same thing. Our OP is in the same college as this girl so how he can't get talking to her outside of tutorials is beyond me. Does she do a Cinderella and mysteriously vanish? Besides, contriving things so he is in the same tutorial as her does not guarantee anything at all. What if her friends are also in the class and they sit together in a clique? It's a stupid idea - don't do it for these reasons. Your older more sensible self will thank you for it.

CommanderC

Dovies wrote: »

And what happens when he does that and she blows him out? He will then have to sit every day looking at her realising what a stupid thing he did. Stick with the modules OP and get chatting to her somewhere else!

Then he will learn a very important life lesson and he will mature a little......as the saying goes, 'we live and learn'.

Listening to others who tell you what not to do, instead of just going out there and living life is, just in my opinion, boring.

simply simple

OP suppose that in next module you both get along well and interested in each other and then if she gets to know that you left your interested module for that reason will that be a good impression of you on her? Frankly girls like a MAN who can follow his dreams, live for his thoughts and principles.

To me, if I was in her place I will not be happy to know it, I will be somewhat horrified and avoid you as that would be a personal space attack for me..

a fat guy

It smacks of that "desperation" that women (And men!) find VERY unattractive.

I'm not saying that you are desperate, just that you haven't really thought this through... You can chat to her around college too y'know! I know plenty of people in my college that aren't doing the same course as me!