What to do when someone wants to ring but not meet?

Zenabena

Guy says he likes me, has phoned but when I asked do you want to meet he says "I'm not projecting anything. Ring me next and we'll talk". Is this a gentle turn down?

sffc

Zenabena wrote: »

Guy says he likes me, has phoned but when I asked do you want to meet he says "I'm not projecting anything. Ring me next and we'll talk". Is this a gentle turn down?

More context please?

CaraMay

It's not so gentle. He is playing games and I would not be taking any more of his phone calls. A pure waster

daisybelle2008

OP, it is hard to give advise without more information. Have you only just met on-line? Do you know this guy already in person. How much contact have you had already and how do you know him.
It could be a reasonable to converse a little before arranging a date if you don't know him from Adam, but frankly it sounds a little weird.

Zenabena

sffc wrote: »

More context please?

Met 2 weeks ago, talked to 8am in morning, slept til afternoon, waking and chatting in between sleep, no sex, left and told not to leave town that day before meeting for coffee, met, told over and over how he liked me and he'd like to visit me. A few texts over the last 2 weeks, 2 phone calls, the last including his response in my post. Confused! Should I pursue once more? Not into games. Like things b&w. like him

Zenabena

sffc wrote: »

More context please?

Met 2 weeks ago, talked to 8am in morning, slept til afternoon, waking and chatting in between sleep, no sex, left and told not to leave town that day before meeting for coffee, met, told over and over how he liked me and he'd like to visit me. A few texts over the last 2 weeks, 2 phone calls, the last including his response in my post. Confused! Should I pursue once more? Not into games. Like things b&w. like him

Zenabena

daisybelle2008 wrote: »

OP, it is hard to give advise without more information. Have you only just met on-line? Do you know this guy already in person. How much contact have you had already and how do you know him.
It could be a reasonable to converse a little before arranging a date if you don't know him from Adam, but frankly it sounds a little weird.

Thanks. See reply to sffc.

Stavro Mueller

To be frank, he sounds like an utter bullsh!t merchant. If he liked you as much as he says he does, he'd be doing his best to meet you in person again. Are you sure he doesn't have a girlfriend or something?

You can speculate until the cows come home about what he meant by projecting. The one thing he didn't say though was "Yes" and make arrangements to meet you again.

Zenabena

cymbaline wrote: »

To be frank, he sounds like an utter bullsh!t merchant. If he liked you as much as he says he does, he'd be doing his best to meet you in person again. Are you sure he doesn't have a girlfriend or something?

No girlfriend. Pretty much thinking bullsheet myself. Will give it one more phonecall and if same answer then "goodbye!". tks

CaraMay

Why bother with another phone call?

Merkin

Zenabena wrote: »

Guy says he likes me, has phoned but when I asked do you want to meet he says "I'm not projecting anything. Ring me next and we'll talk". Is this a gentle turn down?

He sounds like a twat, I wouldn't waste a phonecall

ABajaninCork

Next!! This guy is blocking traffic. Do not waste your money on a phone call...

wurzlitzer

ABajaninCork wrote: »

Next!! This guy is blocking traffic. Do not waste your money on a phone call...

I agree, move on if he is messing you about now imagine what he will be like down the road & I would gave him a wide berth, lucky escape, he may be a faker who are the type that drip feed.... I have alot of experience with these kind of men they will mess you around.

judgefudge

I don't even understand his response. Not projecting anything?! What... I would steer clear. He just sounds a bit weird. Wait for someone who is cool and easy to chill out with.

Mansized Wreath

Move on OP.

Lorna123

Maybe he likes you but doesn't have the money after Christmas to meet up with you and doesn't want to admit it so he is making excuses.