I don't know what to do

LegacyUser

Hi all,

I'm a member but I've decided to go unreg for this.

I've been with my fiance for 2 and a half years. I met him when I moved to the town he grew up in for a new job. He is a builder, worked for himself for many years then we all know what happened next so he worked in a hotel for about 6 months of our relationship before getting back into construction. He built his own house back in the day as well. (This is all just backround info please bear with me). The house has a huge mortgage and is in arrears.
After a while I moved in with him, my eyes were open I knew what I was getting in to. I paid half the mortgage and sometimes when he struggled I paid most of it along with groceries and few other things but I know he would do the same so I never resented that. I have a good job, not earning millions but enough and I am good with money. Parts of the house weren't finished e.g a half done sun room, drive way etc and little by little we've been putting it all together.
His work is not secure, one week he could have 5 days, the next 2 days and the next none. I've tried to talk to him about emigrating but he is having none of it. I don't even mean forever, just for a while to get us on our feet. I am sorry for rambling but I guess my issue is I feel trapped. I love him more than anything and have stuck with him through some hard times and don't want anyone else but I feel I'm at my breaking point. My wages have been cut like a lot of people, his work is scarce. I feel we'll never be able to afford to get married or have a baby at this rate.
I've supported him when he needed it and sacrificed for him but he is not willing to even discuss this with me, he just says 'I'll find something' or 'Something will turn up'. It won't though. The house will never be his and to be honest the bank will probably repossess it in the future if the arrears aren't paid. His family are urging him to get away for a while too. He is so unhappy yet I don't know why he is willing to do nothing about it. I feel so hopless right now.
Do I stay and struggle on financially with the man I love or do I cut my losses and move on and try to have some sort of life instead of just existing. My heart is broken and my mond is fried thinking about all of this. I am genuinely at my wits end, I need some outside opinions please.

sffc

Sometimes on boards silence speaks volumes. For five hours now us boardsies have failed to give you outside opinions. Not that we don't care I reckon just that an outsider is exactly that. There's far too many variables which only an "insider " can evaluate in your situation. As the song says "Tell him about it " (nearly) tell him all your thoughts and nightmares as well as dreams. Total honestly is called for. Only his reaction can guide you I think.