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Am I depressed?

  • 10-01-2013 11:57pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    goin unreg for this. I know you can't give medical advice but I just need a little perspective. For the past year I have been struggling. Theres no real reason for me to feel so down, I just am. I am in a relationship with a great person but I dont think i have ever really appreciated them. I am in a great, but incredibly stressful job. Its something I love but the people I work with and the constant pressure is really killing me. I think I'm just not strong enough to cope with it.

    I have problems sleeping a lot, getting to sleep that is. I have been to a doctor about this. I have been to a counsellor. The doctor said that it sounded like I may be depressed and to come back for blood tests but I havent had the cash. The counsellor was really bad, I think maybe his style just didnt suit or something but I was basicaly throwing away 60 euro a week and I can't afford that. Money is very tight.

    I often cry for no reason. If I don't go to bed exhausted I can't sleep for hours, progressively getting more and more upset and inevitably crying. I can be really hard on myself. I don't consider myself good looking, I don't feel smart enough to do what I'm doing, I don't think I have enough friends. Then at other times I feel like a great person, but its usually feeling bad.

    I've been waiting to get through this phase and feel better but it just doesnt seem to get better. It has been over a year now... I can't concentrate, I cant get motivated.

    I just wanted a bit of advice... I don't want to go back to the doctor and pay more and more money for no results. I don't think I could be considered that bad of a case to warrant medication, I function ok for the most part. I think I'm just afraid that nothing will make these feelings go away.


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  • #2
    skyfall2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 409 ✭✭skyfall2012


    Hi OP, it sounds to me like the Doctor might have diagnosed you correctly, but I would say you should have a look for another therapist. There are different types of therapy e.g. CBT and so on, look up the different types of therapy find the one that would suit you and find a therapist that treats using that kind of therapy.

    I think the stress of the job is having a knock on affect on your mood, you could bring this up with your therapist and ask him how best to deal with your particular situation. Therapists can give you great coping tools.

    Good luck:)


  • #3
    Monkey Allen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166 ✭✭Monkey Allen


    I'm no expert but I don't believe that depression just happens or even that people are born with it. I think there is an underlying reason for it that, if not tackled first, will result in symptoms remaining or even getting worse. Treating depression without knowing whats causing it might temporarily help you but might also make you feel much worse if it returns.

    My advice would be to analyse what you feel you struggle with at home, in your relationship and at work. I'd also suggest going to see a hypnotherapist, just to get some truth out. Much of hypnotherapy is bull in my opinion but it will give you an opportunity to free your mind and let some true words come out.

    Regardless of what you do, I think it's not right for a doctor to treat depression as a standalone. If depression occurs on it's own without reason, we're in trouble. Plus, without knowing why, you will live with a sense of fear of it coming back for no reason.


  • #4
    RossFixxxed
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭RossFixxxed


    OP we are obvioiusly not going to diagnose you, but from your post something is wrong. I would strongly recommend going to a GP on this.

    There are all number of things that could be out of whack, hormone levels, liver, kidney, thyroid, electrolytes, anemia, mental issues or a combination of things. It could be diet related, an allergy. It is WELL worth going to a professional and starting to rule things out.

    From my experience they will do blood tests and such first to rule out the most likely physical symptoms as well as assessing your mental well being. It's surprising what things sometimes manifest as mental health issues.

    It is worth looking at your lifestyle, do you eat healthily, interact with others, exercise etc?

    Your quality of life is suffering and you need to take steps to remedy this. You won't know yourself once you get going.

    There are some dreadful councellors out there, but there are some excellent ones. I'd say pay for the blood tests first, then see where the GP recommends. There are some great FREE mental health services out there. They are a bit on the slow side but keep pushing. Cluain Mhuire in Dublin is an example of one of these, even the prescriptions are free in their case (run by John of God's). I know how terrible times are and how scarce moeny is, but your health should be priority number 1, and you should be your own number 1.

    Things can and will get better if you take little steps and keep after a good professional. If you are in Dublin I can point you in the right direction (if I'm allowed mention doctors / mental services?)


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