what do country lesbians/gays really do...

another new one

this is just a wee thought that came into my head!

I'm 21 and from the country parts where there literally is absolutely notin to do in terms of gay nightclubs etc!
so it just came to me that maybe theres loadsa lesbians out there from the country parts who just feel society doesnt cater for them in the rural parts at least.

So am just wonderin girls..theres loadsa posts on here from the fellas which are real helpful! But girls are there any of you's from the country parts who wish there were more nightclubs focussed towards lesbians?
Do you all just simply go to straight clubs with friends and have the craic as per usual or does it really get to you and stop you going out at all?
actually gay fellas too...does this affect yourselves as much too?
maybe people just travel to the likes of Dublin for gay nightclubs?

let me know!

Annasopra

lgbt people from outside of cities on Ireland do many things

A lot of couples just settle down and live a quiet life

A lot of really isolated older people just live life denying themselves and they stay lonely and isolated

A lot of people travel frequently to Dublin and other cities. Groups like Dining Out, Running Amach, Out and About, Wet and Wild get people from all over the country

In the last 5 years there has been a big growth in local lgbt groups throughout Ireland; tipperary, kildare, cavan, wexford, waterford, donegal, sligo, leitrim, kerry etc. Some of those are quite vibrant and some have struggled.

baby and crumble

You'd actually be really surprised at how many smaller groups there are in rural locations, op. I recently moved home to Kildare after many years of living in Dublin, and found out there is a VERY active LGBT movement in Kildare! Turns out I'm not the only gay in the village...

Do some googling, check places like GCN online, and facebook to see what's available near you.

mr.anonymous

I would be lost and very isolated if I wasn't living in Dublin for college.

The lgbt group set up in the county I'm from isn't active and even if it was I don't think I could go.

I think a good few people use various websites to meet others. I've tried them before but it's just depressing so I always delete the accounts.

If there are going to be the kind of nights you're talking about outside Dublin, they should be gay nights, not confined to lesbians or gay guys.

Living in Dublin isn't a luxury just because a lot of the gay bars/clubs are here, it's also because I can go without my parents knowing or asking where I'm going. I tell them I "went out with the class" if they ask when I'm home at the weekends. I hate lying but somehow I can't picture myself saying I went out and shifted a lad.

It is a shame though that there aren't more gay nights in towns around the country. I think they seem to be confined to cities and maybe where there are students. A few clubs in Dublin have night aimed at lgbt students, or that age group at least.

LoveBiscuits

In westmeath myself but from cork originally. It can get quiet at times and definitely there are long dry spells but I just learned to deal. Not really all that bad. I don't really have an lgbt circle of friends here but the friends i do have are great so luckily i'm not too pushed. Mostly the few lgbt people here do the same thing that everyone else does. Go to any of the local pubs and clubs and have a few drinks. Not that much different from the cities just a smaller and less noticeable amount of lgbt people.

mr.anonymous

LoveBiscuits wrote: »

In westmeath myself but from cork originally. It can get quiet at times and definitely there are long dry spells but I just learned to deal. Not really all that bad. I don't really have an lgbt circle of friends here but the friends i do have are great so luckily i'm not too pushed. Mostly the few lgbt people here do the same thing that everyone else does. Go to any of the local pubs and clubs and have a few drinks. Not that much different from the cities just a smaller and less noticeable amount of lgbt people.

It's the Westmeath group I'm talking about - gaywestmeath.com - just says Site Dropped now. Facebook page hasn't been updated since October.

I don't think I would go anyway. Tried belongto once, but other than that not involved with any lgbt group at all.

LoveBiscuits

mr.anonymous wrote: »

It's the Westmeath group I'm talking about - gaywestmeath.com - just says Site Dropped now. Facebook page hasn't been updated since October.

I don't think I would go anyway. Tried belongto once, but other than that not involved with any lgbt group at all.

Yeah i've been here for nearly 2 years now and quickly came to that realization. There is something called outwest (or thereabouts) as well but i haven't used it. Seemed more active if you can travel though.

Annasopra

You could always set up something up in Westmeath yourself?

Aurongroove

shur' Westmeath is only a spin in on the motorway into Dublin.

Well I say that, but you'd probably need to stay the night if you went in.
It's a pity they don't have a gay spot in Mullingar, I've been out there once or twice and it's not like the place isn't busy enough.

Davyhal

When I was a wee bit younger (about 21 or so), I needed to be around LGBT friends. I think it was necessaary while I was coming into myself. I live in Clare, so every weekend I used to get the bus to Galway, where fortunately I had a group of friends that would allow me to crash with them and we would all head out on the scene together. We were all the same age and had all come out in the previous year, so we had that shared experience.... Now that I am that bit older (I am 25), I no longer need that scene. I am comfortable enough in my own skin. I usually head out now in Clare, and I am now more confident to approach guys in straight bars etc (but only if I have it on good account that the guy is of the gay/bi persuasion). I haven't been out on the scene since September now and to be honest, I do not miss it. Saying that, I do always have the option still. I have gay and lesbian friends in Galway, Limerick, Cork and Dublin so I can always head out on the scene if I so choose.

Also, through Grindr in particular I have made more LGBT friends (Gaydar doesn't seem to be too popular any more in Clare amoungst people in their 20s for some reason). Every time I log on to Grindr, I am always surprised at how many lads there are in my town alone online!