Am i over reacting?

LegacyUser

little back story,
with my girlfriend 3 years
love her to bits ,


now heres were its all mixed up
my girlfriend is on facebook
she ends up talking to her ex , i dont mind that , im not paro at all so its no problem
she told me 3 weeks can she talk to him cause his ma passed away i said course ya can ya dont have too ask me i trust ya

she stayed in mine last night
and she left her facebook signed in
i didnt relise this until about 4 hours ago
i went to log into facebook but when the page came up it was already logged in to her account and straight in front on me was her ex in the chat box saying she has a lovely arse and was a great ride and all ( i wasnt going through her mail it was already in the chat box ) so it was right in front of me and hard to ignore it since
anyway i seen this and it turns out hes been talking to her for 3 weeks the way he rode her on a car and all and next time he sees her hes gonna touch her arse whether shes with me or not

now i cant help but feel hurt and deeply enraged at the moment
she basicly lied to me saying dont worry i only wanna have a chat and hes not like that

now to be fair she kept saying im in a relationship stop talking about that to the ex fella
i confronted her about it and shes really up set


she keeps saying sorry im so sorry

i forgive her for lying and she said she deleted him off facebook
but for some reason i cant get him having sex with her on a car outta me head

it makes me feel pure sick
i know shes had prrevious sex partners and so have I ,but we dont talk about it because its our pasts and its none of our business
even though its not her fault because she didnt tell me about how she had sex with him because we agreed not to tell each other
after finding out this way off the same person who was talking and flirting with her
it makes me feel pure sick
i love this girl but i dont think i could get passed this without thinking about them too on a car all the time
its driving me up the wall
i dont blame her i blame meself for even going on facebook , but if i hadnt i wonder would this carry on still be happening

so confused its like that image of them too keeps playing over and over in me head and i feel sick cant even do anything to take me mind off it because ive already tried

sorry for long post

likeaboson

Hi OP

Like you said she has previous sexual partners and so do you, everyone has a past and that's exactly what it is past. It wasn't a nice thing for you to see but look at all the positive points, your gf told him to stop and that she was with you and she deleted him! She obviously cares for you and is sorry for not being honest with you. It will take awhile but you will get passed this, it was just a shock

I wish both of you all the best in the future


Keep the Faith

judgefudge

Everyone has a past. This guy is out of line though. The most important thing would in my eyes be how she responded. If you say she was discouraging him then that's one thing. But personally if an ex put me in that position I think I would also block and delete them. Maybe she didn't because he was upset over the death, but it's still not cool.