Love

Lux23

This isn't really a problem but I am just wondering if feeling like this is normal.

I met this man two months ago, I am 30 and he is 27 and well he made it clear very early on that he really liked me and at Christmas we both said we were in love. Normally my relationships consist of worrying and fretting whether the other person likes me and I rarely seem to think about my own feelings.

We have spent very little time with other people and he has only met one of my friends (we will rectify this over the next couple of weeks as he has some time off). We both plan on meeting each others families soon and he loves introducing me to his friends.

So all in all, it's going really and I am madly in love. But I am bit worried we are getting carried away, he says he wants to marry and have children, we have discussed all of this.

Is it crazy to think that the person you met two months ago will be the father of your children? Or is this what love is?

Matteroffact

Stop looking for problems where there are none :D

Lux23

I know, I know that to be true. But I also know if a friend was running away with a relationship like I am I would think they were mad.

ash23

Personally, I wouldn't be comfortable with that level of intensity so early on but I'm just a cautious person.

Some are quicker to fall than others but that doesn't mean they're more or less likely to get hurt. There's no guarantees. Whether you take your time or speed into things at full throttle, none of us know what will happen.

If he starts asking for money, run :P

curlzy

To each their own OP. Everyone is different and so are relationships. There is no right and no wrong. How does he make you feel and how does he treat you? How do you feel and treat him? If you feel you are in love with a good person that makes you happy why hang back from that?

Just breathe and relax OP. If this isn't the right guy for you you'll realise it soon, if he is the right guy well then, sure aren't you heading the right way?

Oh and congrats on finding love : )

Merkin

I don't think there is any right or wrong answer to be honest. If it feels good and he makes you deleriously happy and treats you with love and kindness and respect then go for it. I would be slightly cautious about being "madly in love" and discussing marriage after such a short time but that's only because I've had my heart broken and I think anyone who has been through that will tell you the same. In my experience if his ACTIONS match his words then he's a good one and one to hold on too. I wouldn't worry too much about what other people think, it's the two of you in the relationship after all. Hope it works out for you both

Lux23

It's all good really, we have had a couple of arguments but the making up certainly made it worth it.

ash23

Lux23 wrote: »

It's all good really, we have had a couple of arguments but the making up certainly made it worth it.

A couple of arguments two months in would worry me more than being madly in love. Just be careful OP. Don't start confusing drama and lust and anger with passion and love.

Lux23

I wouldn't call it drama to be honest. I do know I haven't felt this happy and safe with someone before and I don't want to be without him. I guess I should just enjoy it for what it is and hope for the best.

SineadMarie

Good for you and i hope it works out for you. I had that back in April went out with my bf for a few months fell head over heels when it ended i was heartbroken. Thought he was the one after a few months, spoke of marriage, kids etc. Just enjoy being in love if it works great if it doesnt its another lesson.

Ickle Magoo

It's perfectly normal.

"Love" or the lust/infatuation stage of a new relationship is designed to make you feel all warm and fuzzy and set for life with that person - its purpose is to help you bond initially. While it's worth remembering the vast majority of people experience the same chemical high when starting out in a relationship, there is no harm in enjoying every second of it either, even if it is no guarantee of longevity.

All the best. :cool:

kat.mac

I say go with it - but remember that there are no guarantees. Enjoy it - it's one of the best feelings in the world.

We can't see into the future and therefore, can only do what makes us happy right now. He's making you feel happy and secure right now, so what's to question?

Ever2010

It can happen. Myself & himself fell in love within a couple of weeks of our first date. Moved in together after 6 months (discussed it at about 3 months), and now 4 years later, we're getting married this Summer. All I can say it that we always felt right from day one, just relaxed and normal.

LegacyUser

Op, sounds like you're on a roll.

Go for it! What a nice position to be in.

ScriptedAlibi

Why be cynical?
Just enjoy it

scarymoon1

i see a counsellor and if i were in this position she would tell me its way too fast and there would be some issue. You cant love someone so quickly - ye dont even know each other yet.

afterglow

Lux23 wrote: »

This isn't really a problem but I am just wondering if feeling like this is normal.

I met this man two months ago, I am 30 and he is 27 and well he made it clear very early on that he really liked me and at Christmas we both said we were in love. Normally my relationships consist of worrying and fretting whether the other person likes me and I rarely seem to think about my own feelings.

We have spent very little time with other people and he has only met one of my friends (we will rectify this over the next couple of weeks as he has some time off). We both plan on meeting each others families soon and he loves introducing me to his friends.

So all in all, it's going really and I am madly in love. But I am bit worried we are getting carried away, he says he wants to marry and have children, we have discussed all of this.

Is it crazy to think that the person you met two months ago will be the father of your children? Or is this what love is?

Hi lux23

my 2 cents, for what they are worth

Firstly I should point out, I'm not exactly experienced in relationships, but I'm in one 4 years now, so hopefully that qualifies me, at least a little, to write what I'm going to

My first serious relationship ever was exactly like what you are describing re feeling feelings that are quite intense after only a short time. I felt like I was in love with the person in question, even before we had started going out, we had to go through a lot to be together. Anyway, the relationship in the end only lasted about 9 months, and when we broke up he treated me not so well. I am only telling you this as my story, not saying this would happen to you at all. I instinctively say that if you feel he is the right one for you, and you feel like he is the one, go for it. However, i would also say, be careful, as I also, thought like you, and then when it all came crashing down around me I took it very hard, and also, wrongly, allowed him to treat me badly enough. Remember when you said that if this was a friend of yours that you would think she were going two quick with the relationship? well examining things in this way in your own head might not be a bad idea, if you can do it without atachment to the situation this is, which might be hard.
I wish yu the best of luck whatever happens, and take care. `

Lux23

Well, we talked about this quite a bit over the weekend and neither have ever felt like this before. I have been infatuated with people but I don't feel this way with him. Also, it has been a fairly sober relationship (Friday was the first time we both had a drink together) so I don't think there is any chemical inducement.

I know I am in love with him and he is with me, now that may not translate into marriage, kids etc but we are both very happy so I guess we just have to enjoy what we have now.

ladygirl

Great to have positive stories here for a change!! Delighted for you OP.. Don't overthink things and just enjoy yourself

Best of luck
xxx

Ickle Magoo

Lux23 wrote: »

Also, it has been a fairly sober relationship (Friday was the first time we both had a drink together) so I don't think there is any chemical inducement.

All "love" has chemical inducement - nothing to do with alcohol mostly dopamine, norepinephrine, phenylethylamine & serotonin. Regardless, you are both happy and mutually feeling "it" - so enjoy!