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Is there hope?
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29-12-2012 7:00pm#1Hi,
Basically I became very depressed for a long time (several years) and became so numb that I more or less lost interest in my existence as a human. I stepped out of the numbness and into a world of deep depression and anxiety about 4 months ago. I am in my early 20's now, am attending counselling and am trying to find routes to become social.
However I'm finding this very difficult and the lack of life experience is embarrassing (simple things like never having been to a cinema, never been to a concert, not having any photos of myself, no experience with women (its an endless list of silly things)) and I simply don't have someone to catch up on these things with. I am feeling as if I just let things slip that slight bit too far- I feel things were solvable (had I realised at the time) in college as I was surrounded by societies, but this sort of age specific thing isn't really open to me anymore.
I am becoming increasingly worried that I am going to grow old by myself forever. My social circle is so crap that I wouldn't really say I've ever even had a proper female friend my own age nor have I gained a new friend since turning 14/15, just know a few lads I might meet up with on a monthly basis and do the same old boring stuff with. I work with people twice my age, in a job that is not my passion- but the pay is good anyway. My family is sadly a write-off and it really is heart breaking to feel this way
Can I retrieve a life from this point?0
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It takes an awful lot of courage to step out of those shadows and if you can do that then anything is possible. It isn't going to be easy, nothing ever is, but stepping back into the world and getting help for depression and anxiety is by far the hardest step. Every step after that is easier. So hang in there.
This is the age of the internet, and I'm assuming here that that well paying job gives you some time for some freedom and luxuries. Is there any hobby or event that you have (or had) a tiny bit of passion for? Is there any thing you would love to try, something reasonable of course but don't think it must be normal. It may sound odd but one advantage of being in your position i.e an almost non existent social circle is that you are free of burdens and you are more free to mould a social circle to fit your own. Try stuff, old and new, and see what sticks. Eventually from the hobby or pastime you like you'll meet people you like. More often than not strangers are the friends you've yet to meet. Best of luck searching and hunting. 0 -
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