Despair

LegacyUser

Sometimes it's just so hard to maintain a positive, upbeat attitude. I try so hard to be cheerful.

I am 32 years old, revovering alcoholic, and back living at home. I have been sober for over a year now. I have been on the dole for a while now. I'm currently doing a part time postgrad course in TEFL in a university and I hope something good will come out of it.

I had a huge row with my mother a few days ago. Sometimes I find life so stressful. It's so hard to be cheery.I had a couple of job interviews last month, and one of them didn't even get in touch to say I hadn't got the job. I look to the future, and all I can see is 30+ years of living at home with no job. My dad says to stop, that I should be looking at things from day to day.


If anyone has any words of wisdom I would appreciate it.

pastorbarrett

Tell me about it- life can be a b*itch sometimes. But your Father is not too far off the mark at all. It's cliché and all the rest of it, but you must consider the positives in your life.

-You're sober a year. Massive congratulations to you.

-You're engaged in further education. TEFL opens up all sorts of opportunities. I'd heartily recommend to travel with it if you're so inclined. You could save money even and enjoy the fruits of living abroad. Got anything you'd like to do with some savings? No doubt you do! We all do!

Without harping on about it and surrendering to more banalities, make the most of what you've got. This requires the inclination to do so, which can only be supplied by you, OP. Make a plan, and go for it. Or sit and do nothing...

*And lest we forget you've got your folks in your life

mikemac1

teflpostgrad wrote: »

had a couple of job interviews last month, and one of them didn't even get in touch to say I hadn't got the job.

These days it's unusual to even get a rejection, most of the time they'll ignore you!
So don't take that to heart

You are getting job interviews, a couple of them in fact.
That's excellent and puts you far ahead of most job applicants.

Busy managers don't spend their time with candidates unless they are interested.

cantdecide

You sound like you know you have a lot to be thankful for. Uncertainty will always lead to stress but the trick is to identify something that appeals to you and will motivate you. If that isn't presenting itself, just keep putting one foot in front of another. There are a ton of career options that will make you live in the future and that will lead to other stresses but you must learn how to enjoy living in the here and now. Devote a modest amount of time per day to job hunting or career research and then permit yourself to rest and enjoy your time off because you will miss it when it's gone.

Birdsong1982

Wow, you've come so far. Don't you see that? You're in the middle of turning your life around. It doesn't happen overnight. Imagine where you will be this time next year. I feel positive that you'll have a new job and will be planning a fulfilling life for yourself. The fact that you're doing job interviews is a brilliant sign - you know what, that takes a massive leap of faith and a strong spirit. Check out the meaning of the word 'kaizen' - I'm sure it will help. I wish you luck.

CaraMay

Well done op - you have conquered the booze and if you can do that you can conquer the world. Try not to be hard on yourself. You are doing great even Getting interviews and its hard to move home and be the kid again.

Get out of the house as much as you can, volunteer as much as you can and enjoy the simple life for a while. You will find a job and life will take off again. Try to r joy what you have and give yourself a pat on the back.

LegacyUser

Life will never present an easy solution on a plate. You sound as if you hate your life, but also because you think these circumstances are your fault. Firstly, no they are not. They are down to economic circumstances and to an addiction that was out of your control. The first problem you can't do anything about, and the second is one you battle daily.

Stop thinking that the world should go your way, or that it is your fault if it doesn't; that's narcissistic thinking. You are not the center of the universe. Things won't go your way all the time. Most of the time it will be a pain in the butt. But if you preserve, and don't let the little things get to you, the situation will improve.

If you stay off the drink, you won't have that problem. If you keep applying for jobs, you will eventually be successful. If you continue in your course, you will complete it. Don't get discouraged just because things are hard. Dig in, dig harder, and tell life to get stuffed, you're going to succeed no matter what.