Am I overreacting

tittle mouse

Sasha and abajanincork have given advice thats really helped in solving my problem so I know how to deal with my situation thank yee so much xxx

sashafierce

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ABajaninCork

I know that the two of you love your son, and want only the best for him. But over 1.5k's worth of gifts for an eight year is way, way OTT, whether educational or not! And I wouldn't be happy about the GP's giving such a young child a tablet either, so I'm with you there. And I agree with SashaFierce. The father's trying to outdo you and if this isn't nipped in the bud now, then I'm afraid you'll be storing up trouble for the future. What happens if either or both of you can't afford such big presents in future years? What will the little guy be expecting next year? And the year after that???

Those children already sound like little horrors. What a nasty thing to say to a little boy! Who taught then this behaviour is right??

Can the two of you have a chat about how to handle your son's present's in the future? Maybe, just get one 'big' pressie and several other smaller items like books, iTunes vouchers, clothes, and ask the father to give you half the cost. Perhaps ask the GP's and other relatives if they could put money in his piggy bank rather than buying extravagant gifts. That way, everyone's happy, your son can tell the truth if he's asked about his Christmas, and he can play with his cousins again.

Hope this helps!

tittle mouse

Exactly the 500 included his football gear and clothes and swimming lessons I had no idea his dad was gonna come along with all these Presents it really shocked me. I'm just so angry at his dad and grandparents for doing this because last year I explained that our son shouldnt get extravagant gifts thanks guys for you replies xx

CaraMay

€500 is extremely extravagant for an 8 year old and the total spend is entirely ridiculous...

I guess his dad wanted some control over what his son got for Xmas. Why do they need to consult you about that tablet. Surely the dad agreed to it?

tittle mouse

The reason I felt I should be consulted is that myself and his dad decided that any major decisions about our son would be made jointly ie mobile phones, setting bed time hours etc and u feel a tablet which gives a child access to the Internet is something myself and his dad should have decided upon.

As for the 500 only 150 of that was toys so I do not think that was extravagant. I decided to give swimming lessons as part of his gift as I felt it was beneficial. And he had no sports boots which he had to have as ordinary shoes aren't allowed in the club he plays with. His Christmas outfit was part of that also

His dad was also given a say in what Santa brought this is also why I'm shocked by his actions.

Thanks for the replys so far

Ham Sambo

Hi ya. It would appear that you are dammed if you do and dammed if you don’t! Your ex with his childish behaviour would appear to be trying to outdo you in the Christmas present list this year, he is obviously jealous of the way you are bringing up your son, you didn’t say if you are in another relationship or not?, perhaps this is where the envy stems from??

tittle mouse

Hi ham sambo thank you for your contribution that's exactly how I feel I haven't been with his dad for 6 years now and I've been in my current relationship nearly 5 years now but this is the first Christmas he's gone to this extreme with present buying!!

I'm afraid that he's going to go to school and tell other kids what he got and upset them but I plan to sit him down tomoro and have a little chat.

Ham Sambo

Well I am sure your ex can spend as much money again on your son but at the end of the day your son even at his age knows the story, by all accounts you are doing a good job there, don't be cutting yourself up about that a*shole, best of luck.

sashafierce

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Neyite

Closing this as OP has edited the first post.