Stuck in the middle

LegacyUser

Will try and make this short.

A girl and boy am friends with....both have this weird, intense relationship. Keep breaking up, gettin back together. It really is exhausting. Christmas day took the biscuit..it was off again. Id told the girl a few months ago, that I didnt want to talk about this again (as am friends with him also). I tried to condole the girl, took time out christmas day to try and comfort her. The boy (whom I am closer to) wont talk at all. I said something to the boy a few weeks back that all this was going to just end in tears and hurt. He apparently took that as me giving advice to break up with her, again.

I feel like am being blamed here, when Ive actually done nothing wrong! Her, she can go feck herself. After consoling her christmas day, she no longer wants to talk to me again, and seems to be blaming me. The boy, I want to try stay friends with, he has just stopped talking.

I didnt even mean to get caught in the middle, I was just so tried from it all. Ive my own problems.

Any advice please.

CaraMay

Let her off and accept he doesn't want to talk so don't try. It's that simple.

Katy89

don't react if any of them is contacting you again.
they already wrecked your head and they will continue to do so if you allow it.
they are no real friends and keep your dignity in not having anything to do with them any longer.

all the best

looksee

You are only in the middle if you allow yourself to be. They have a mad relationship? Leave them off, don't offer opinions, don't discuss it.

You said you would not discuss it then ended up doing just that on christmas day. The boy didn't want to discuss it but you offered your opinion anyway.

You don't have to fall out with them. Just leave them be for a while, till they get over whatever situation they are in at the moment. It suits them very well to have a manic relationship then bounce the blame off you. You are allowing them to do this. Stay out of it.

LegacyUser

Thanks for advice. Well, it might have gone from bad to worse. But I feel better for getting it off my chest.

She started again saturday night, and I just told her to stop. I didnt want to deal with this anymore, and that her problems were not mine. She just wouldnt stop! The behaviour is allll wrong-I do actually think that there is something not quite clicking in her head. She only seems to care about herself, and getting her "fix". I told her that I think she needs to realise that she needs to talk to someone professional to sort her head out. Im sorry it had to be me to tell her that. But I did.

So, I told him I was not putting up with her s*it anymore, because of what they were doing to eachother.

Havent heard a peep out of either since. I will be very sad to loose his friendship, but not hers. Maybe they can hate me together. But I dont think there is anything to salvage anymore.

RossFixxxed

I've been there before, and it was my fault.
They will end up: breaking up because it is ""your"" fault.
Staying together for a bit blaming you for all the wrongs in their relationship.

That's my own experience. Not a great set of choices. Just keep saying you don't want to get dragged in the middle of it. If they can't respect that then there is a one word answer I WISH I had of thought of myself at the time: Goodbye.