My Birthday

PTH2009

so today is my birthday and i feel sort of feel like ****e.

Only one person out of 218 friends have wished me a happy birthday on facebook. Nobody has invited me out for my bday, My other half hasant text me happy bday yet and i just wish the 28nd would hurry up because my bday will be over.

I look at facebook and other things and people are getting a load of birthday wishes and things and it just annoys me that nobody cares about me as much.

I knw its not the worse thing in the world but i hate my birthday, i dont hate my life one bit but i wish my birthday was better.

QuiteInterestin

I'm not sure if you're in a different country, but your message was posted at 1:40am on the 27th so you haven't given them much chance. Most people don't consider it to be the following day until they've been to bed so I'm sure you'll get plenty of good wishes tomorrow (later on the 27th).

Let me be the first to say it, Happy Birthday, hope you have a great day!

WumBuster

I dont have my birthday up on facebook for the exact reasons you do now. Mine is coming up in two weeks, and there will be no notice to fb's going out, ill just get a few cards/messages for from some family members and 1 or 2 friends. Thats how I want it, no fuss, its just another day, move on. perhaps you should do the same in future if its getting to you that much. Try not to worry about it. happy birthday

judgefudge

Are you in Ireland?! It's 2am?! Give it a chance.

Besides which Facebook happy birthdays don't mean a lot. I always get them from random friends who I assume only say it so that I'll say it back at their birthday and they'll get to feel popular.

On my birthday all my mates were busy and I didn't really do anything. Some birthdays are like that, you just have to take it in your stride.

Are you happy with your social life otherwise?

looksee

OP, this is facebook you are talking about! You do not have 218 friends, you just have around 208 people who click the 'be my friend' button, and possibly another 10 that you actually know.

Clicking a button does not make anyone a friend, you need to be out in the real world getting to know people to know who your friends are.

As another poster said, if you get a few real greetings from actual friends and family, you are doing fine. Facebook is fine to keep in touch with people, if you think it is real life you should not be on it.

Roisy7

looksee wrote: »

OP, this is facebook you are talking about! You do not have 218 friends, you just have around 208 people who click the 'be my friend' button, and possibly another 10 that you actually know.

Clicking a button does not make anyone a friend, you need to be out in the real world getting to know people to know who your friends are.

As another poster said, if you get a few real greetings from actual friends and family, you are doing fine. Facebook is fine to keep in touch with people, if you think it is real life you should not be on it.

+1!!!

People who wish you happy birthday on Facebook usually only do this because the side bar on the Newsfeed tells them to!

A friend of mine got fraped and they changed his birthday to about six months before it actually is. On the day of his fake birthday he got tons of messages because people didn't know that his birthday was actually in December.

So would you call those people his friends?!

Don't take it too seriously. Also if you are abroad and your friends are in Ireland, they will wish you a happy birthday when they are all awake. I'm sorry but nobody in my life is that important that I would get up at 2am and wish them a happy birthday on Facebook.

Facebook is all smoke and mirrors, give me real friends over Facebook friends anyday.

"True friends are like diamonds, precious and rare,
False friends are like fall leaves, found everywhere".

ElleEm

I agree with Looksee and Roisy.
Facebook is not a great indicator of real-life. I rarely write happy birthday messages on it- I text/ phone my real friends instead!
It also appears that you were expecting your friends/ gf to stay up past midnight just to contact you. People may have been out/ in bed/ busy. I hope your girlfriend and family wished you a happy birthday today.
Don't get too caught up in it tho- it is only a day!!

You need to chill out a bit. I've read your posts before, and you seem like a really sensitive fella. It's a lovely trait to have, but if you don't mind it, you could come across as a bit needy and desperate. This has the ability to push people away.

fat spud

PTH2009 wrote: »

so today is my birthday and i feel sort of feel like ****e.

Only one person out of 218 friends have wished me a happy birthday on facebook. Nobody has invited me out for my bday, My other half hasant text me happy bday yet and i just wish the 28nd would hurry up because my bday will be over.

I look at facebook and other things and people are getting a load of birthday wishes and things and it just annoys me that nobody cares about me as much.

I knw its not the worse thing in the world but i hate my birthday, i dont hate my life one bit but i wish my birthday was better.

sashafierce

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movingsucks

Last year on my birthday I was bombarded with messages from Facebook with people posting on my wall. People I didn't really know and it was all so insincere.
This year I had got rid of my Facebook and I received no birthday wishes. My husband and family of course remembered but I have three "best" friends and not one of them acknowledged it. All forgot. About a month later one of them twigged and obviously told another because I got a message out of the blue about a present!
The third still hasn't a clue 10 months later!!
Anyway. Was I annoyed about it? No, amused maybe. If I was five years younger I probably would've felt crap alright though. I just accept that my birthday isn't as important to others as it is to me.
But I'm not one of those people who starts dropping hints or making a fuss. Other friends will arrange a get together, sometimes people will do it for them but the majority of times its the birthday person themselves just starts with the "come out for a few drinks for a birthday"
Or they will bemoan their age etc or talk about their presents.
So anyway, I wouldn't take it personally if I were you, I just think if you're over the age of 21 and you want your mates to care about your birthday then you need to shove it in their faces I guess.
As for family and other half, well I guess I would be blue if they didn't even send a message of goodwill.
One more thing I will say, over the festive season people do lose track of dates. I have friends with birthdays over this time and sometimes, while I remember the date initially, the day will be almost gone by before I remember to get in touch!!

RossFixxxed

There's an age to stop expecting people to be excited about your birthday and that age is 13 tbh. Or go wild on a 21st.

I assume you're very young OP, but Facebook is so far removed from real life it isn't worth considering. Also it was what, 2a.m. when you posted that so give people time to wake up and get going.

As you get older, birthdays matter less and less. For me, I don't want any fuss, maybe just hang out have a pizza or something. Why not call your REAL friends and organise something. Just say it's your birthday and you fancy a meal/movie/drink/night in/party or whatever and make the move yourself.

I'm 31 and we've all long stopped buying presents etc, we'll pop a text and head for a pint if the person wants to go out and suggests it. Otherwise birthdays just pass by like any other day in work!

Get out there and make it better! Have you been bemoaning your birthday loads to everyone so they're afraid to say anything / sick of you going on about it?

Is Facebook wishes that important to your life? If it is you should log out for a few weeks and reconnect with people. Hunting for comments/likes on social networking is a sure fire way to let life pass you by.

RubyWoo83

Ah cop on OP. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. My birthday is the 26th and I usually never celebrate it or expect people to remember it. It's hard enough to be remembering birthdays in general but there is so much going on at this time of year what do you expect?

I actually did celebrate it this year and invited all my friends out for it, I also posted an invite on facebook and got over 50 birthday wishes. If you want people to make a fuss of your birthday then you have to remind them it is happening!

djimi

RossFixxxed wrote: »

There's an age to stop expecting people to be excited about your birthday and that age is 13 tbh. Or go wild on a 21st.

I assume you're very young OP, but Facebook is so far removed from real life it isn't worth considering. Also it was what, 2a.m. when you posted that so give people time to wake up and get going.

As you get older, birthdays matter less and less. For me, I don't want any fuss, maybe just hang out have a pizza or something. Why not call your REAL friends and organise something. Just say it's your birthday and you fancy a meal/movie/drink/night in/party or whatever and make the move yourself.

I'm 31 and we've all long stopped buying presents etc, we'll pop a text and head for a pint if the person wants to go out and suggests it. Otherwise birthdays just pass by like any other day in work!

Thats a pretty sad outlook on life in fairness. Its one day out of 365/366 which feels special because its "yours". Its not just any other day.

OP hopefully the day picked up a bit for you. Given that you posted at not even 2am (assuming that you are in Ireland) hopefully more people got in touch when it wasnt the middle of the night and they were actually awake! As has been said above, for most people the day doesnt start until they wake up, even if they go to sleep after midnight.

RossFixxxed

djimi wrote: »

Thats a pretty sad outlook on life in fairness. Its one day out of 365/366 which feels special because its "yours". Its not just any other day.

OP hopefully the day picked up a bit for you. Given that you posted at not even 2am (assuming that you are in Ireland) hopefully more people got in touch when it wasnt the middle of the night and they were actually awake! As has been said above, for most people the day doesnt start until they wake up, even if they go to sleep after midnight.

To be fair the OP's facebook thing is causing them sadness at 2a.m. That's not something that burdens the rest of us.

I'm saying they should make something of it themself. The world isn't there to make you feel special, you aren't. You may be special to people you love and that is what is important. It doesn't mean they should all be poised at midnight to post up whatever rubbish on Facebook. That's where my issue is.

It's an important day to YOU on your birthday, doesn't mean everyone else cares.

It's not really a sad outlook, it's more practical. People get older, and birthdays don't matter as much. You can't be as excieted at christmas as you were when you were 10, the same really goes for birthdays.

Important to you =\= Important to the world.

I know it's a bit harsh.

The waiting for Facebook at 2a.m. is really a bit sad, and you need to leave the Internet for the real world.