Feeling unattractive

segarox

I don't have a specific relationship problem mainly because I have never been in one but now that I'm in a wheelchair for most of the day makes me feel very unattractive and I've never really thought of myself as God's gift anyway. Am I right to feel this way?

Taltos

No, I don't think so but I can see why you might think like this.

Maybe finding someone to talk to would help you? Working on your self confidence and letting that shine through might be beneficial to you. The wheelchair is secondary here - as you said yourself you have never considered yourself to be "God's gift" - and unfortunately if you cannot find at least one thing you like about yourself it will be difficult for others to find it too - not impossible - but difficult.

We all have at least one thing - for some it is their smile, their laugh, their sense of humour, their crooked nose (don't ask )....

Lorna123

People find different things attractive in a person. Your personality would be something that someone might find attractive about you, your face, your eyes, your hair, and if you concentrate on being attractive I am sure it will show and people will notice. We all have insecurities about ourselves. I can see lots of things about myself that are not attractive if I take the time to notice, but I try not to dwell on them. Instead I pick the things that I know are not too bad and that makes me feel better.

segarox

Taltos wrote: »

and unfortunately if you cannot find at least one thing you like about yourself

I do like myself... now, for a long time I didn't. I guess I'm afraid that women would see me more as a charity case than anything else