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Dating question

  • 17-12-2012 10:46pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I have been dating a guy for over two months, see each other about once a week and are in contact very regularly during the week, get on great but havent slept together yet.

    How long into a relationship would you expect sex? Male and female prespectives on this would be really appreciated


Comments

  • #2
    judgefudge
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 915 ✭✭✭judgefudge


    Hey,

    I'm female but I have been in relationships where I've waited a couple months to sleep with the guy, and I've been in relationships where I've slept with the guy right off the bat. To be honest I think if you're worrying about what's expected of you you're over thinking it. Do whatever feels right. If you want to sleep with him go for it, if you want to wait and get to know him better do that!

    There's no set time for this kind of thing!


  • #3
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    every relationship is different. Even sometimes when you're "just friends" that "hang out" every once in a while, theres always that chance that some months into it that - whoops - there goes some sex involved. So, no, don't automatically assume there is some "X number of dates" "1/2(Age) + 7" Rule, just do what feels intuitive/natural/right/etc.


  • #4
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    Do it when it feels right, there are no rules as to when is the right time.


  • #5
    Mervenut
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 224 ✭✭Mervenut


    A guy here, it is totally your call, but be sure not to be pressured (no mention of pressure in your post I'm just mentioning it as a general rule) and when you both feel it's the right time. As a guy I want the first time with someone to be memorable, romantic and special because that is a reflection of how I feel for her!
    Take your time and when it is right make it special.


  • #6
    msg11
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,572 ✭✭✭msg11


    Male..

    No time scale , but going from a few threads on this forum if it gets to stage with yourself that you want to do it, bring it up with him. He could be nervous etc..


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  • #7
    Holsten
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,971 ✭✭✭Holsten


    Male, I'd expect it after two months!

    A month even, my last relationship we hopped into bed before any dates and it worked out well, I hate the idea of waiting, sex is a massive part of any relationship.


  • #8
    kat.mac
    Closed Accounts Posts: 390 ✭✭kat.mac


    Female here!

    While I agree that there's no rule as such about this, two months is a pretty long time!

    Is there any particular reason it hasn't happened yet?


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