Guy's opinion?

LegacyUser

I'm 25, female, and aware how juvenile this will sound.

Met a guy, also 25, about a month ago and we've met up 5 times since then. We've been getting on pretty well, seem to get along naturally.

Last time we met up was early last week. I texted him that time to arrange a date and we went out, had a great time. I haven't heard from him since then. He did tell me he would be working nights all last week and this week though. But basically, I'm just sitting here waiting to hear from him. I don't want to text him again because I texted him first the last time. It's annoying me though because that was the first time I've ever initiated contact and now this is the longest we've gone without contact.

I'm very impatient. I just don't want to get my hopes up again, been heartbroken a couple of times recently (yada yada) and things always seem to go the same way for me - I except it to go somewhere and it fails before it even takes off. If you liked a girl, I think you'd at least send a quick text saying hi after a week, even if you didn't have time to meet up, wouldn't you? I'd rather just know if he's not interested.

(....Or girl's opinion, for that matter )

neveah

I'd just text him, ask him how his weekend was?/or how work is going?.....keep it casual and see what he says back. If he's very vague/cool or he doesn't reply for ages then I'd leave him off and not initiate any texts anymore. At the moment you are in limbo and sitting waiting by your phone is only going to wreck your head, plus it has been a week since you last saw him so it's hardly bunny boiler territory if you want to drop him a text now.

However I hate to sound pessimistic but if he hasn't made an effort to contact you in a whole week then you have to be prepared that he's not interested. He may be busy with work but he could still find a couple of minutes to send you a message. The signs aren't great to be honest, generally guys who are genuinely into you will make an effort to keep up contact. You have seen each other regulary for the last month so to just cut contact for a whole week without a word isn't a good sign unfortunately. Sorry I don't sound more positive but I have been in the same situation in my past as have friends and people tend to mollycoddle and make excuses (maybe he lost his phone etc) but that's never usually the case, unfortunately it usually turns out that he's just not that into you.

But there's plenty of fish out there OP and it's Christmas so don't sit around pining for this guy, if he doesn't make an effort then forget him, get your glad rags out and enjoy the party season!

CaraMay

Yeah tbh there is one minute each day he can text. I would leave it. He knows where to find you so why chase him

Curry Addict

at such an early stage, no contact from him for over a week, no matter what his situation is, means hes not really interested. I would write this one off even if he does contact you in the next day or two.

cantdecide

I agree with the above; if he were besotted, he would have easily found the time by now to contact you. Especially as you've been the one pushing things so far. If you really really like this guy, I'd maybe text him one more time but just leave things very vague and see he if he decides to take the lead.

LegacyUser

Thanks for replies.

Yeah, he's probably not interested. Whick sucks. Not just saying this, but he was very keen. I mean, on one date we were talking about our favourite films and I was saying how I don't own mine on DVD and he shows up the next time with the DVD for me...

I think I'll just leave it now anyway. It took a lot for me to text him first last week (I usually rarely text first) so I don't wanna do it again.

Also, this is a bit weird, but I have his gloves. I was carrying them in my bag for him one night and he forgot to take them back. Dunno what to do with them now. We do have 1 mutual friend so maybe I'll just give them to her?

beks101

Hey OP,

Yeah it sucks when this happens. You'd wish the guy would have the balls to at least tell you they're not into it, or give you some form of closure, but sometimes it seems like a majority just don't have the manners/decency/respect to do that. It's no reflection on you whatsoever.

If you feel like it you could shoot him one last text, just testing the waters to see if he replies and tries to further things, but that's really your call. It's a horrible feeling to feel like YOU'RE the one doing the chasing and it's not good for your self-esteem to not have someone make any real effort with you. The right guy will make you feel desirable and that he's lucky to have you.

Onwards and upwards. The good thing is, after a few weeks and further distance from him, your feelings will have passed and you'll have the perspective to see the wood for the trees and that he just wasn't worth it.

Now get out there and enjoy some festive partying!

CaraMay

He can live without the gloves so I'd do nothing with them

Chucky the tree

Texting isn't a great sign but I definitely don't think a guy buys a girl a DVD of her favourite movie on a date unless he likes her. Might have just gotten cold feet due to the dates after that though.

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Curry Addict wrote: »

at such an early stage, no contact from him for over a week, no matter what his situation is, means hes not really interested. I would write this one off even if he does contact you in the next day or two.

Have to say that I agree with this...sorry :-(

Do nothing re: gloves. It will only look like you are either trying to make contact yourself or thought your friend. Be bigger than that. He can survive without the gloves

Big Bag of Chips

Unless you ask you'll never know... You're sitting at home wondering why he hasn't contacted you, and are not contacting him because of some misguided 'rule' that the guy should make the moves.

He's probably sitting at home wondering what has happened and why you're not contacting him. If he's done something to scare you off, or if you've just gone off him.

There is a chance you're both thinking exactly the same thing, and both not wanting to look needy or eager by being the first to contact. And both letting this slip away unnecessarily.

There's also a chance that he lost interest.

But as I said, the only way to find out is to ask....