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Stuff really getting medown

  • 17-12-2012 4:45pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    This is probably more of a rant than a constructive post buy life isn't great at the moment and I'd appreciate your opinions. I'm a guy in Dublin, living away from home and studying for a level 5 cert.

    I've just started work in as fashion chain and even though I'm probably only temporary for Christmas, I'm enjoying it. The first few days were a bit daunting but I've settled into it now and the work suits me well.

    Before this, I did voluntary work. I didn't love it but I was happy to be occupied and do something to pull my weight. The only thing that really bothered me was the presence of guys my age who were drawing the dole. They were 21, able bodied, able minded and just idle. They'd never done a thing on anyone's terms but their own but their income from 'free money' was greater than the sum I needed, which my parents didn't really have, even though I was practically committed to things full time.

    My dad is seriously I'll with cancer in his oesophagus and lungs. It's in its 'latter stage' and while we know the prognosis was never good, none of us really know what this means. This is his third bout of cancer in 15 years. He's been self-employed for most of his life (not entitled to state support) and his work largely dried up around 2008, when he was last sick.

    I've been taking antidepressants for over a year now but this week, I ran out and was without them for 5 days. The withdrawals symptoms were horrible - it's like trying to work with a hangover and no one realises you didn't inflict it on yourself. My parents insist on collecting my meds at home so they come under the HSE payment scheme (they're €70/month) but it means I never get them on time. I know I can't show up at work or college, totally unfit for anything, and say 'I need something mammy forgot'. I don't blame either of them personally but that's exactly the way it is.

    I missed deadlines for 3 separate things today and last week I submitted a piece on time but totally sub-standard. It's incredibly frustrating to know I could break the mould in a top university but really, I can't seem to please FETAC. I did the LC twice and now I'm on a PLC. People assume I'm incompetent or just lazy and only I seem to realise that's not the case.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    missing your deadlines and feeling your college work is slipping is probably a mixture of you being not yourself cause of the meds situation, and the pressure you feel over your dad's diagnosis. it's an awful lot of worry and stress on your shoulders at once, and i really feel for you. would you consider making an appointment with the college councellor? you could probably do with the extra support until you get your head around your dad's illness and get yourself back on track. x

    we can't give you direct medical advice here op, but i hope it's ok to say that going off any medication, without the advice of your GP is never a good idea. so you need to get the situation with your meds sorted asap, whatever that means. can your mam not get the prescription filled a few days in advance and get them sent to you by swiftpost or something? i'm not sure what the issue there with the drugs scheme and them arriving late is, but it sounds to me like a no-brainer. talk to your mam, talk to your GP, get it sorted so you won't be left without them again.


  • #3
    Lorna123
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    You could have your prescription done up in a Dublin chemist. Get your Mom to organize this and then you could collect it yourself. Tell your Mom how all of this is effecting you. You simply have to. She has her hands full with your father at the moment so could you go down some weekend and organize all of this yourself. You might be able to get the chemist in your hometown to dispatch the prescription to a Dublin chemist. I am sure it can be done. Just go to your chemist at home and talk to him about doing this. You can't be expected to do your best if you are suffering withdrawal symptoms. Go to your college counsellor too, that's a good idea. Just do all this today and don't put it off one minute longer. You will feel good you have done something positive about this. Best of Luck.


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