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stuck in the middle

  • 17-12-2012 1:53am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    OK so my friend and his fiancée broke up [she initiated the break up] but they still live together
    She doesn't love him and feels she rushed into the relationship as a way to escape her home life.

    I'm friends with her longer as I we meet threw work.
    She was in my house for a few drinks tonight and we spent 5 or 6 hours talking and drinking.

    She admitted she liked me before she went out with my friend and I told her I fancied her back then but lacked the courage to ask her out as id gotten no clear sing she liked me.
    Tonight we both ended up in bed together,we didn't have full on sex but we sure did fool around a lot.

    I'm now feeling guilty that I took advantage despite here assurance I didn't and she was just as willing.
    Id rather not be THAT GUY but I also don't like the fact of lying to my friends and acting like were doing something wrong when in my eyes she's signal.
    He still thinks there's a chance of them reconciling thing.

    Iv told here that if things are to progress between us she has to tell him there is no chance at all.

    She's in her mid-late 20s and both him and I are in the early 30s


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  • #2
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    If it were me I would tell him myself and I would also fill him in on the conversation she had with you. I would not like to just bump into him after she told him. You can't progress with this until this guy is told in my opinion.


  • #3
    HelloGiggles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 31 ✭HelloGiggles


    Absolutely inappropriate. You have involved yourself in their situation.

    If you knew that there was no way she would be getting back with her fiancée and that you liked her then you should have just waited till they were completely over. She's still living with him for god sake. That poor guy will be heartbroken, not only has he lost his fiancée but a friend got her in his bed as soon as her engagement ring was off- or had she even taken it off yet?

    Tell him yourself out straight what happened. They won't be happy you did this but it makes you look more decent than it will when she tells him... or he finds out from someone else.

    Be prepared to lose both of them, but i'm sure you knew that you wouldn't have both as friends after you had her in your bed..


  • #4
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    Op a much as you are trying to justify it, you stabbed your friend in the bàck big time.

    It will devestate him when he finds out. Is she really worth losing a friend over?


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