Friend issue

Timmythedonkey

I'm a seperated woman in her 40's. Over a year ago a mutual friend introducted me to a friend of her's who is also seperated and we hit it off and started going out together and meeting for coffee etc.

A couple of months back we went on a night out and she got quite drunk and basically started roaring and shouting at me - she completly lost the plot - she wouldn't get in the taxi home so I ended up having to go alone, which made me feel awful! I literally tried dragging her into the taxi but no luck!

She text the following day apologising and I forgave her but said if it ever happened again that would be the end of our friendship. So we were out last night - I was driving, she was drinking and basically she refused to come home with me and said she was gonna get a taxi!? She got really stroppy and walking off on me, so in the end I told her what I thought of her and left without her.

I was so angry when I got home I said to myself that was it! Today I got the sorry text - saying she didn't remember what she said to me and I should know that she would never normally treat me like that and she was giving up drinking. Now don't get me wrong I like a drink but I get merry drunk where as she gets deppressed and stroppy.

I am now in 2 minds as to wether I should just cut the friendship or should I give her ANOTHER chance! To be honest it is a little bit selfish on my part as if I'm not friends with her then I don't have someone regular to call on for a companion to go out with! I am a very forgiving person but am feeling like if I do she's gonna think she has some sort of upper hand over me. I am so confused over this and would like to see what people think about this?

skyfall2012

Don't go drinking with her. A lot of people are bad drunks. But she sounds like she is OK without drink on board, so I would not write her off completely. But, if this behaviour raises it's ugly head during your non-drinking meet-ups, then I would finish it.

Don't feel like she has some hold over you. She knows that you have a problem with her drinking and she has admitted that there is a problem with her apologies, so she should understand the boundaries you are setting.

ennis81

Don't write her off, she sounds like a good mate apart from the drink and she has realized on both occasions she was wrong and apologised, a few years back I was going through a very tough time and I went a bit mental at a couple of friends when drinking, thank god they were good friends and understood It was out of character for me and knew there was something wrong, try talking to her over a cup of tea and see if everything is ok with her;)

Big Bag of Chips

If you would like to keep her as a friend and she has promised to give up drinking then you should support her in that. It would be incredibly selfish of you to want to use her as someone to go out (drinking) with, but yet not like who she becomes when she drinks.

I have a friend who is an angry drunk... So, I just don't go drinking with her!

You can drop her as a friend, completely, if you only want her as a drinking buddy. Or you can find other things to do together.

Even if you DO give her another chance, you can still let her know that you are very upset by her carry on. A genuine friend would be remorseful, not think they 'have one up on you'.

If you think that's what she's thinking, then maybe you don't have a 'friendship', but more a relationship of convenience for both of you?