is it to soon to get this serious

LegacyUser

Hi sorry for this but as I have seen the previous thread here on love at first sight. I am just wondering is this too soon even though I feel nothing wrong or worried about it?

I have this friend for awhile that I started dating, we always had feeling for each other but other things got in the way e.g my ex, were in our twenties but now that we are together i have never felt so strong about someone like I do now. I can actually say what I feel is true love even though that sounds very hard to believe for other people and he feels the same way. we ve decided to move abroad next autumn after we finish college and start a new life abroad but the thing is he wants us to get married before we go away.

I feel what only words cannot describe I feel over the moon but I don't know how other people will feel about this we have only been with each other a few months but i feel as if i ve sound my soulmate i ve never felt this strong about someone sorry about the long post.

is t ok to get this serious so soon?

Lorna123

It sounds good to me OP. You are not going to get married for another year anyway, so see how you feel by next Summer. Lucky you !:D

daisybelle2008

isittoosoon? wrote: »

is t ok to get this serious so soon?

Well you need to figure that out for yourself and not go by what other people think. If you feel comfortable with the pace and trust your instincts then its all good. The fact you are asking the questions is something to consider.
Be confident that you know what is good for you and enjoy the feeling. But also be aware it may not last forever and that is ok too and be prepared to move on if the feelings fade or don't feel good anymore. The idea of one 'soulmate' is not accurate. He is your soulmate for now, but that could change in the future.

P. Breathnach

isittoosoon? wrote: »

... we have only been with each other a few months ...

That is long enough for some couples. Can you think of any reason why it might not be long enough for either of you?

satsuma40

If it feels right for ye both go with it.

Stavro Mueller

Good for you that you've found someone special. I hope you continue to be as happy as you are now. When it comes down to it, does it matter what other people think? You're the one who's in the relationship, not them.

Having said that, I am wondering why the hurry to get married? Can you not move abroad as you planned and see how things go before you take this massive step?

Chronic Button

Me and my partner knew that we wanted to be together permanently within a few weeks of starting our relationship. We kept that to ourselves though, to avoid warnings about 'rushing into things' from well-meaning friends and family. Many years later, we're still blissed out.

Relationships succeed when you decide to love each other come what may, and when you both want the same things. If you can tick both those boxes, you're onto a winner.

jantheman91

Never too soon for anything. Life is unpredictable and incredibly random. There's a reason why certain things make certain people happy. Do whatever is working and feels right. Don't use any other relationship speeds of progress as a yardstick.

Stick to what you're doing, if it's working it won't lead you far wrong!

Humria

It's fantastic you are so happy in your relationship but (yes, I'm going to say it) why rush into marriage?

I don't know if you are living together at the moment but I'd certainly recommend living together before getting married.

You guys are obviously very certain of the direction in which you are going (which is great) but why not just enjoy being engaged for a while? Moving abroad together is a great adventure and a brilliant opportunity to learn about each other. It just feels like you would be squeezing the marriage in at the moment.

You may be together forever but you may not. Not being married when you travel isn't going to limit how much you enjoy being together.

So I'm not saying don't get ever married, just that you have nothing to lose by taking your time and enjoying what you have at the moment.

Merkin

Awww I love a bit of romance. If it feels right for both of you then go for it. Trust your judgement and enjoy every blessed moment. Some people search fruitlessly for years to meet that special someone so when it lands in your lap you grab it with both hands girl! There is no "right" amount of time to date someone before getting married....do what your gut tells you and ignore societal expectation or norms (who wants to do what everyone else does anyway? )

ShaShaBear

Myself and my partner are together 9 months (yesterday) and we have our wedding booked for September 2014. Like you, we've known each other 6 years, and something always got in the way - but we knew within weeks that this was the real deal. If you know it, and your partner knows it, then go for it!
Like it's been said, you have a year to change your mind.