Love at first sight

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

Just going annon for this one but does anyone believe in this??

I was out last Saturday night and this guy caught me eye, and I caught his. At the end of the night as I was leaving he stopped me and said hi and so on. We ended up chatting for about half an hour and I was instantly attracted to him in a way I never felt before.
My friend came along and she was quite intoxicated so I had to gather her up quickly and go.
This guy asked me could he contact me someway and I said sure, look me up on Facebook.Couldnt even remember my number because I had just got a new one.
Sure enough he did the next day and we started texting and a few calls.
Met him for a date last night and I'm completely bowled over by him. He has told me the he's never felt so strongly for someone so quickly before. He's everything I could ever dream of and more. We're not kids, both 28.
The more we talked the more we found we had in common. Its actually surreal.

Im sitting here completely buzzing today! My older sister one told me that when you meet the one you just know it. I've always been sceptical but this is making me think otherwise.

This guy wants to meet up again soon, he texted me this morning to say he cant quite believe all this is happening and how he thinks he's actually come across his dream girl.

So.. what Im asking is.. Does Love at first sight really happen????

not yet

Two things, 1: yes I think it can happen

2: Be careful for a while he could be playing you.



Either way, enjoy!!

Cerulean Chicken

not yet wrote: »

Two things, 1: yes I think it can happen

2: Be careful for a while he could be playing you.



Either way, enjoy!!

Yep, I met my now fiance like that, I was wary of number 2 happening because he was known as a total ladies man, I thought all his romantic comments about falling hard for me etc might be nonsense. It soon became clear they weren't Enjoy!

LegacyUser

Thanks for your replys!!

I've been played before and Im aware of the signs but this is completely different.

I suppose i though this was definately not possible to come across someone that ticks EVERY box.. and I tick his.

I feel sick with butterflies... never felt this way before..ever!

not yet

Cerulean Chicken wrote: »

Yep, I met my now fiance like that, I was wary of number 2 happening because he was known as a total ladies man, I thought all his romantic comments about falling hard for me etc might be nonsense. It soon became clear they weren't Enjoy!

Well I played the field big time for a couple of years after my divorce. Told the ladies anything they wanted to hear.... But I met the love of my life 5 years ago and never looked back.

So Again just run with it and see what happens, he could be playing you or he could be nuts about you, either way time will tell.

Merkin

Hmmm, I do believe in lust and amazing sexual chemistry at first sight (I had it with my husband) and know how totally exhilarating and amazing it can be. So yes, it can happen. But love, deep and real love I think takes longer.

However, I've also been at the receiving end of having my heart broken by someone who also told me I was the most amazing thing that ever happened to them, how we were destined, how he couldn't believe in his luck etc.

I am now thankfully married to the love of my life but kissed a lot of frogs on the journey. If you want my honest opinion I'd tell you that if you DO think that this could potentially lead to something (and I personally think you are jumping the gun a bit after one date) then for sheer self preservation there is no harm in holding a bit of yourself back and adopting a "wait and see" attitude. I'm not saying be a cynical mare and make the man jump through hoops but I would let him put his money where his mouth is.

If a man is kind and honest and loving and respectful and calls when he says he will and and excites you like no other and makes you want to be the best person you can possibly be then THAT'S when you know it's for the long haul. That's love. Not after one date with someone who could potentially be feeding you lines.

Keep a bit of yourself back until you get to know him better and in the meantime enjoy the ride I'd definitely let his actions speak louder than words though but enjoy every moment of the buzz of getting to know him.

ManOfMystery

I don't believe in love at first sight. I don't think it's possible for any human to fall in love with another human within a half hour of meeting them - not truly, deeply in love. How can you, when you barely know the person or what they're like?

You may be madly attracted to each other, wildly passionate and have amazing chemistry - but that's not 'love' as we know it.

Nonetheless, it sounds like you and this guy do have that amazing chemistry and there's definitely a spark between you. People talk about soulmates, and to me a soul mate is some who makes you feel as if you were meant to be together - total compatibility in terms of communication, intimacy, everything. If you've found your soulmate in this guy then I'm delighted for you ...... but just remember not to get in over your head - take things at the same pace as you would any other relationship, and build a lasting bond. Sometimes people who rush into it too quick burn out that magic spark that drew them together.

IrishEyes19

lovely to hear a cheery story like that, but just be careful. As others have said, its so early on and I agree with another poster, real absolute love can only be achieved after time. You need to go through all the motions with this person the good and the bad before you throw out the L word. You need to see the best and worst of a person.

enjoy what you have now. And wish you all the best.

daisybelle2008

Don't worry about being played, that is a big contradiction to the advice to enjoy yourself. Hard to do that if you are second guessing yourself and him.
Trust yourself, you really do not need to worry about being played, you have control over how you feel. If you trust and believe in yourself there is not need to worry about anything.
People get played because they put too much emphasis on an outcome and overlook what is under their nose and ignore their doubts. In otherwords they overinvest in
a situation, ignore that it is making them feels bad, keep going past its sell by and then blame the other person for 'using' them.
You can 100% enjoy the feelings this is stirring up in you without getting over involved and dependent on a result. i.e accept things may or may not work out but enjoy the experience regardless.

LegacyUser

Hi everyone, just me again.

Thanks for all your replies! I'm defo not throwing caution to the wind, I've been burnt badly before and I do not intend to put myself in a position to let that happen again.

Im not completely naive and I do know that there are guys out there that will say just about anything to get as far as they can in as little time as possible.

I just feel a really strong connection to this guy and its hard to ignore. I understand completely that it takes time to build a fantastic relationship and I do intend to take it.
But all I'm saying is that i have dated guys before and i've been in relationships but this is nothing like what I've ever felt before.

I was just interested to see if there were any others that had a similar experience and where did it lead to.
We've just organised a second date.. hard to contain excitement but i'm not being foolish.

Thanks again for your replies!

StrugglingSoul

Bella000 wrote: »

Hi Guys,

Just going annon for this one but does anyone believe in this??

I was out last Saturday night and this guy caught me eye, and I caught his. At the end of the night as I was leaving he stopped me and said hi and so on. We ended up chatting for about half an hour and I was instantly attracted to him in a way I never felt before.
My friend came along and she was quite intoxicated so I had to gather her up quickly and go.
This guy asked me could he contact me someway and I said sure, look me up on Facebook.Couldnt even remember my number because I had just got a new one.
Sure enough he did the next day and we started texting and a few calls.
Met him for a date last night and I'm completely bowled over by him. He has told me the he's never felt so strongly for someone so quickly before. He's everything I could ever dream of and more. We're not kids, both 28.
The more we talked the more we found we had in common. Its actually surreal.

Im sitting here completely buzzing today! My older sister one told me that when you meet the one you just know it. I've always been sceptical but this is making me think otherwise.

This guy wants to meet up again soon, he texted me this morning to say he cant quite believe all this is happening and how he thinks he's actually come across his dream girl.

So.. what Im asking is.. Does Love at first sight really happen????

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hawaiigirl

Hey OP, I had a very similar experience with my ex and I absolutely believe that an instant connection like that may not just be 'lust' as such. We ended up going out for 7 years and I can genuinely say that the feeling never went away. Even after so long together, I still had butterflies when I saw him..We broke up for other reasons, not because we didn't love each other, but to this day he is the love of my life..

One word of warning though, because of the intensity of how I felt so early on (and possibly because I was so young), I think I failed to see or acknowledge red flags that didn't mean much then, but only later became a problem. But of course by that stage I was completely and utterly in love with him and it was too late. So, my advice would be: go with it, enjoy it because it will be amazing, and hopefully it will continue not just for the short-haul. BUT keep your head screwed on and don't let it blind you. As the other posters said, hold back a bit (but not too much) and allow time to assess other aspects of his character (is he consistent, does he do what he says he will do, is he reliable, does he treat you well, do his actions reflect how amazing he thinks you are). Best of luck!!!

HelloGiggles

I don't know if I believe in love at first sight, but I definitely believe in having an instant connection with someone who you meet for the first time.

Either way, it's great that you have met someone who you feel this excited about. It's the best feeling in the world!

Enjoy it all:)