making the first move?

countryliving

hello everyone,

i was out on friday night my friend and i were grabbing aquick bit of food before we went to a concert. this guy that i worked with cameover to me he was on his christmas party and sat beside me for at least 20minutes we had a big chat and there was a bit of flirty going on!

this guy was always unavailable but is now single. so we areboth living back in dublin from the same town and our fathers have the sameillness and we have the same hobby cattle breeding

i give the impression i am confident and i can chat away toanyone. but when i get nervous/shy i can say a few silly things - anyways ihave to admit i find this guy very attractive and we share a lot in common. sowe were sitting our dinners were getting colder and colder! i wanted him to ask me for my number but didnt know how to get encourage him - eventually he said sure i'll give you my number and we can meet up.

i took his number

i would love to meet him again.

so - i text him today & said; good to meet you and referred to our shared hobby.

unfortunately, i have'nt heard him.

i am nearly 40 and it is hard. hoping that he will get in touch and ask for a date.

i feel rejected already as he has not responded to my text message -i wont be texting him again cause i would be making a fool of myself. i feel a fool already

as you get older it is so difficult to meet 'available' guysand one that you fancy. i am not desperate but over the years if i could counthow many numbers i gave out and never got a call.
was i wrong to text this chap today?
it always seems to me when i have zero interest in a guy he will invariably be ringing and texting.

CaraMay

No you did the right thing and have no reason to feel like a fool. Possibly he is just not good texting and if he doesnt come back to you today I would write him off and definitely not text again. He might think you were just texting him about your hobby so if he doesnt come back dont be embarrassed. what did you do? Nothing wrong... Chin up and well done for being brave enough to text him!!!!

Lorna123

Today is not over yet, he will respond when he knows what to say. You did nothing wrong, he gave you his number and you sent him an innocent text, no harm done. His loss if he doesn't reply.

jimd2

As the others said, some people are very bad at texting back. He may still come back to you.

Is there a chance that you might run into him over Christmas and perhaps hi position might be made clearer then?

Irish_Elect_Eng

Don't rely on text, that's a kids game.

Besides as other have said, there are so many reasons why he may not have text back, from big thumbs to forgetting to charge his phone.

Give him a call, be confident, be straight, no games.

"Hi, this is <You>, it was great talking you you, I'd love to take you up o your offer and meet up to continue our chat."

Then he will either say yes or no.

Believe me, knowing the score is a lot less painful than imagining it......

StrugglingSoul

It doesn't sense.. why would he not text back. I mean he hardly ran out of battery.. or did he? I guess its a waiting game.

But sending the text was not a mistake. There was no way you could have known he wouldn't reply

Merkin

What exactly did you say in the text? Did you ask him something that required an answer? You see, if not, he may have looked at the text, thought to himself he now has your number, and put his phone back in his pocket!!