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LDR Wondering...

  • 06-12-2012 11:32pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi all,

    Long time lurker, first time poster

    In a LDR relationship for the last year and seems like I'm doing a lot of the running. Often get the impression that GF wouldn't really care and is a bit shut off emotionally as I'm the one who seems to try and inject any bit of affection, never discussed not to mind used the L word. After a year still no suggestion of meeting the family and never discussed where we see the relationship going. Not sure if I'm just being needy but this is getting me down and little bit unsure if I should stay or go?


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  • #2
    looksee
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    I had to look that up. LDR - long distance relationship (presumably)

    OP are you sure you are in a relationship? In the 12 months how often have you met? Is it all email/skype/fb or do you talk? She isn't very communicative, isn't very affectionate and isn't making a lot of effort. If you want to keep it going I think you have to be a bit more specific with her. It doesn't sound as though there is a lot going on.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    Hi Op, well LDR are difficult for a start off

    How far do you love from each other?
    How often do you see her?
    How often do you'se text?
    How often do you's call?
    Who initiates most of the contact...or is it mutual?
    Do you love her?

    I sense from your post that things arent really going well, and with the minimal information you supplied it would seem that the best course of action would be:
    - tell her how you feel, have the talk, the talk where emotions , even if they are only yours are shown, tell her you want more from the relationship, tell her some of the stuff you said in this post. and see how she responds. and after hat see how she behaves. remember actions speak louder than words.
    - but be prepared for the fall out it may not go as you wish, perhaps it truly is best and time for you to move on


  • #4
    chickenbutt
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    I've been in a LDR for over a year now, so I understand where you are coming from. She doesn't sound as into the relationship as you are to be honest. You need to communicate how you feel to her and let her know what is bothering you. I don't know, this just boggles my mind that after a year there is no discussion on what lies in the future for the two of you and things like meeting family. These sorts of things are pretty important, not just in a LDR but also any relationship I would think. Try to open a frank and honest discussion with her about these things, about how you feel and what is bothering you. Either it's not going anywhere or she doesn't realize what she is doing/what to do in a LDR. Good luck.


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