Date Night

LegacyUser

So talking to this girl online, She asked me to meet up and I agreed - set a day etc.

However a few days have passed. We exchanged Numbers etc so she has been texting me, I wouldnt normally mind this, In fact I enjoy it but I'm unsure or whether I like the girl or not - In fact we dont seem to have much in common and she doesnt seem to have a huge amount to say when texting etc. Its quite boring actually "Hey how is your day" "Great".......very boring!

I would be fine meeting although she seems very keen now and I'm not pushed - I mean I dont know her, we havent even met!! Is it mean of me to go along and meet up feeling like this? I'm looking for a relationship but very casual about meets like this. She is making an effort to travel to the city for the day to meet me, Seems like a nice girl etc.

I guess I'm just meeting because, why not? I dont see it as a big deal at all but not sure if this is wrong...maybe you lot can give me insight to what I should do. The date is tomorrow.

Pippy1976

Sometimes people come across all wrong in texts. Meet her - it could go badly, it could go swimmingly but you won't know until you give it a go.

I wouldn't base her personality on text messages. Usually people take them up all wrong anyway.

Best of luck.

dater wrote: »

So talking to this girl online, She asked me to meet up and I agreed - set a day etc.

However a few days have passed. We exchanged Numbers etc so she has been texting me, I wouldnt normally mind this, In fact I enjoy it but I'm unsure or whether I like the girl or not - In fact we dont seem to have much in common and she doesnt seem to have a huge amount to say when texting etc. Its quite boring actually "Hey how is your day" "Great".......very boring!

I would be fine meeting although she seems very keen now and I'm not pushed - I mean I dont know her, we havent even met!! Is it mean of me to go along and meet up feeling like this? I'm looking for a relationship but very casual about meets like this. She is making an effort to travel to the city for the day to meet me, Seems like a nice girl etc.

I guess I'm just meeting because, why not? I dont see it as a big deal at all but not sure if this is wrong...maybe you lot can give me insight to what I should do. The date is tomorrow.

Zen 2nd

dater wrote: »

I mean I dont know her, we havent even met!!

Well isn't that the idea of meeting up? To get to know the person? Texting and emails will only tell you so much about a person you won't know a person fully until you meet them in person.

P. Breathnach

I think it is too late to back out without upsetting her, especially as she is putting a bit of effort into travelling for the date.

Give her one evening of your time. Make an effort to make it pleasant for her. If nothing else comes of it, then so be it. But you never know: it might be the start of something good. And if it isn't, at least you can console yourself with the thought that you did the right thing.

R.D. aka MR.D

i agree with the other posters, text messages aren't a good indication of a persons personality.

I know when I'm really busy or something my texts are definitely boring!

Merkin

Why don't you actually talk on the phone? If the conversation is stilted or monosyllabic at least then you know and won't have wasted either of your times?

sffc

Have you ever considered OP that SHE mightened fancy YOU when you meet! Meet the girl - as other posters have said it could go either way but theres only one way to find out!

m'lady

As what a previous poster asked, why haven't you both spoken on the phone? That would see if there is any chemistry there personality wise.. Doesn't make sense why you haven't spoke on phone tbh..

aidan24326

OP, you're overthinking this. Go meet her and see how it goes. You've nothing to lose really and plenty to gain if the evening goes well.

LegacyUser

Nah we haven't spoken on the phone, Could have been an option although a bit late in the day now I agree.

As for fancying me ssfc when did I mention this? haha You've made me so very very angry!!
See, Unlike a lot of guys who date online I dont look to meet girls just based on what they look like, If you read my issue its that i dont think we have much in common and the conversation is lacking....no mention of fancying someone there?

Although I'm sure she will as I'm only just gorgeous!

On a serious note Thanks for the replies I just dont like being inconsiderate or a backstard when it comes to girls, Was worried I might be giving mixed signals but overthinking it is probably right

Lorna123

I don't think I would agree to meet up with this girl until I got to know her a bit better. Just say that you would prefer to wait a while, that meeting up with total strangers doesn't appeal to you. She hasn't met you yet so she won't be too disappointed.

The fact that you are writing in here to ask about this shows me that you don't want to go and are looking for an excuse not to go. Don't worry about this girl's feelings, she has never met you. You need to think about your own feelings and to date you are not interested in this girl enough to want to go and meet her. I don't think you should go.

Talking on the phone would be twice as awkward as sending texts if you have nothing in common, so don't go there.