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  • 03-12-2012 4:52pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi everyone,

    I have recently started dating again after a long break away from it. My last relationship left me with serious trust issues so now I am a little afraid of commitment and I find new, innovative ways to sabotage my dates each time.

    Recently though, I have been kind of seriously dating (seeing? in touch with?) three guys and I use the term loosely because I have only been on either one or two dates with each of the three men but we've been texting a lot. As many as 20 exchanges a day with each of them.

    At the start, I didn't think it would be problematic but now I am beginning to look forward to hearing from all three of them!! I know I may have to come clean with either two or all three of them at some point but I've been honest enough to tell each of them that I like them but I am not ready for any commitment and we should just go along with no expectations on either side. I know for a fact that one of them is also dating other people and is not in any way expecting exclusivity.

    Why then do I feel guilty? Is this just a remnant of my religious conditioning? Or do I actually have reason to feel guilty?


Comments

  • #2
    pastorbarrett
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 605 ✭✭✭pastorbarrett


    It's early days. If it's a case of you keeping your options open and not craving attention then I wouldn't worry too much about it. Also, if you can juggle that volume of texts without confusion then more power to you. I'm sure with time your interest will lag in respect of 1,2 or maybe all 3 suitors(!) and you'll have more clarity in respect of your feelings. I think it's good that you've been honest in respect of intentions too. Just remember, dating is meant to be fun ;)


  • #3
    saiint
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,010 ✭✭✭saiint


    your just keeping your options open
    theirs no commitments
    im sure their chatting up and going on dates with other girls as well
    try not to string it along for too long though cause maybe 1? or all 3 of them will really end up liking you and will want a commitment and you still havnt decided then he or them will move on

    have abit of fun OP while single :D


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the responses :). I am really as yet undecided and as the second poster says, it's early days yet. I hope I figure out who I would like to get serious with before anyone of us gets hurt.

    Thanks again.


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