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feel very needy

  • 02-12-2012 10:13pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    i constalntly feel needy and clingy towards people and am always looking for complimemts. i also need people to 'like' me. how can i stop being like this?


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  • #2
    edellc
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    feel_needy.... wrote: »
    i constalntly feel needy and clingy towards people and am always looking for complimemts. i also need people to 'like' me. how can i stop being like this?

    there is no magic cure if thats what your looking for....

    feeling confident in yourself and comfortable with yourself is the key to not needing to cling to others so much.

    The thing you also need to realise is that not everyone in life will like you just like you dont like everyone you come across and you need to be okay about that as its what makes us all different and unique but fundamentally the same.

    How do you get confidence in yourself...well that the million dollar question isnt it, a lot is to do with age as when we get older most of us stop worrying about what others think of us and end up feeling if you dont like me well you know where the door is, a lot is to do with our environment and how comfortable we feel within it, as in are we confident in our ability to do our job, do we have a group of people (family/friends) around us that love us and are wishing you well in all you do....then there are those who need to use certain tools to overcome their confidence issues and this comes from professional help, counselling or you could try the local drama group as this teaches you to let go of yourself within a secure environment..and as the old saying goes fake it till you make it or in this case fake your confidence and it will come to you

    As for fishing for compliments off everyone, op you need to try stop doing this, most people dont like others who are so self absorbed , yes we all like to talk about ourselves and yes its nice to be given a compliment but taking about oneself and looking for constant approval is very off putting to potential friends/partners in life, and it is nice to use those two things on the side of your head instead of the gaping hole on your face every now and then


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