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LegacyUser

My sister is studying In letterkenny and I went to visit her for a weekend. On a night out on the town, we bumped into a crowd from her college that she knows a little . I got involved with a man for a one night stand and it turned out to be awful. The night went well and our time together was good. And the morning after wasn't too awkward or anything. I went home happy. 

My sister rang me, during the following week and she said the guy I was with tracked her down, to ask for my number and for my address to post a box of chocolates. I thought it was a bit weird from him but I thought sure why not. What the heck, give him my number and address. 

He texted to say hi and thanks for a lovely night and what not and told me that he'll have something in the post to me. As far as I was concerned it was one night between us and this was a nice thing from him and if it led to more, it would have been nice but if not, so be it. But nothing came in the post. I fired him a message to ask about him and indeed in postal present and he told me he was caught up in work and college and didn't get time to post it yet. 
 
A few weeks has gone by and there was nothing in the post. Right now, I feel so awful and rotten and cheap. He cheapened the one night that we had and degraded me with a gift of nothing.       

looksee

There's a saying 'eaten bread is soon forgotten'.

Yes it was mean and cheap of him to trace you and make promises and then not deliver. However, it was a one night stand, which you enjoyed - it wasn't 'awful' it was the failure to follow through with the promised gift that was disappointing.

I think that is the chance you take when you get into that sort of situation. All you can do is move on, you have no other choice in the matter.

MissFlitworth

You were happy that it was a one night stand, enjoyed the night, no awkwardness the next day & went home with no expectation of ever hearing from him again. Even when he did get in touch you didn't really mind one way or another whether it went any further. Honestly I don't think this guy has done anything so bad and your reaction is completely disproportionate to what's happened. You didn't feel cheap or rotten after the one night stand (which, you shouldn't do) so why do you feel so bad about a box of chocolates from someone you were barely interested in?

skyfall2012

I often have the best intentions in the world and don't get around to carrying them out. You are over focusing on this, which is normal for most people when they meet somebody they like. You got to give this time and you will soon feel better. Don't knock yourself for someone you hardly know, you are worth more than that.

krudler

posting a box of chocolates to a one night stand is beyond mental.

newuser30

My god lady never have a one night stand if your gonna be hurt or feel bad should you never hear from him again! That's the thing about a one nighter.. you dont know the person, trust the person, so to do it you have to not give a hoot if you dont hear anything after! If you think you like the person dont sleep with them on the first night, you have to protect yourself emotionally.
Seriously, the box of chocolates?! That's just funny.

face1990

Feel rotten and cheap wrote: »

As far as I was concerned it was one night between us and this was a nice thing from him and if it led to more, it would have been nice but if not, so be it. 

So why is it a problem that he didn't send you anything? You weren't expecting anything more from it (especially not chocolates in the post).

daisybelle2008

Go to the shop, buy yourself a box of chocolates, eat them while thinking of the memory of the nice sex you had. Then forget about him completely and move on.
I would say never have a one night stand again, you seem to have too fragile an emotional state for it, if not getting a box of choc's in the post causes you to feel 'cheapened and degraded'.

CaraMay

Yeah you really should not have 1 night stands if you feel this bad.

amtc

Anyway you can't send food in the post.

I'd just put it out of your mind. You did it. Didn't expect anything more.

Stavro Mueller

I am not the best at sending parcels to people because it's hassle. You have to find some paper of a suitable size, wrap it up, get to the post office and queue. I've a knack of going to the post office with packages when it's children's allowance day!

My guess is that this guy intended to send you something, odd and all as it sounds to a lot of us here. Then he didn't get around to it. All this time, the memory of your one night stand is fading and he just decides not to bother. End of.