Inertia

Abigail66

I suffer from depression, but I'm on anti depressants and I'm OK at the moment. I have also seen psychotherapists over the years and have done a lot of work on myself. Long story. I lost a job that was very important to me 3 years ago and I have been in a sort of bereavement since then. I've had 3 jobs over 3 years and have been unemployed since July this year..the longest time I've been unemployed since my early 20s. I'm 47. Have gone through all the stuff about being single. Don't like it but don't want it to stop my life either. I have managed to apply for jobs and get interviews but no job yet. My job applications are for fairly high level jobs. Yes I do have friends, good ones, who are supportive, I'm also doing a course although finding it hard to get up to go to it.
I do have lots of degrees and other courses under my belt so I'm not really feeling the need for another course. I've achieved a lot. But I feel lost now.
But the main problem at the moment is inertia. I wouldn't even call it depression. Its nearly worse. In some ways I've been like this for a few years but just at the moment it seems chronic. I can't seem to do the simplest things like take a shower, even get dressed and I can't get up in the mornings. I stay awake all night looking at silly TV probrammes or on the internet which I seem to be addicted to. I lie on my couch most days. I can't get out for a walk even though I live in a loverly place in the country. Its been going on for a very long time. I'm all over the place. I need to hoover the house! I need to prepare for interviews I have coming up. I need to do a project for college and its like I'm stuck to the chair. Its absolutely horrendous. Does anyone have any advice?

LegacyUser

I can totally empathise with your situation because you could be describing me. There are things I want and need to be doing but they don't happen. I have a kind of parallel to every point in your post, especially the couch and the internet.

I wish I knew what to say to you, because if I knew of a solution I would use it myself. I know people are going to say 'plan what you need to do' 'just deal with one job at a time' and so on. That is what I would tell people to do. It isn't happening. I have done a lot of things in my life, people see me as an initiator, a do-er, but it has all stopped. I am not an idle person, there is so much I want to do but I am floating in a kind of hazy limbo. I hope it will pass.

I'm sorry this is no help to you, but you are not alone.

liquoriceall

iknowwhatyoumean wrote: »

I can totally empathise with your situation because you could be describing me. There are things I want and need to be doing but they don't happen. I have a kind of parallel to every point in your post, especially the couch and the internet.

I wish I knew what to say to you, because if I knew of a solution I would use it myself. I know people are going to say 'plan what you need to do' 'just deal with one job at a time' and so on. That is what I would tell people to do. It isn't happening. I have done a lot of things in my life, people see me as an initiator, a do-er, but it has all stopped. I am not an idle person, there is so much I want to do but I am floating in a kind of hazy limbo. I hope it will pass.

I'm sorry this is no help to you, but you are not alone.

I am reading Mary McAvoys book at the moment & she said something that struck me, she called it one simple thing.....so in the morning if the whole day seems too daunting maybe try 1 simple thing with no pressure eg say to yourself I will have a shower, no further plans etc & that way its achievable & even if you cant manage anything more today thats okay
Good luck

RossFixxxed

If it is having a negative impact on your quality of life go see a GP, there are all number of things that could cause this, the obvious being the depression you stated you have and are being treated for. Do NOT diagnose yourself or let anyone outside of a professional do it either, that can cause untold hassle.

Go see the GP, it's 50 quid and it may well help a lot. Good first step to take. Book it this instant and then you'll have something to follow up on. Good luck. It won't get any better doing nothing about it.

Even with depression itself it can take adjusting meds, diet changes, therapy and so on and so on to help. Don't assume it's all fine. Get out back to your doctor and explain this. It isn't just 'get over it' at all, it's 'get help now and reap the benefits'.

Rachiee

It may feel different from your experience of depression but did you consider it could be a new symptom. Inertia is a very well documented symptom of depression. Ive suffered from depression for the past 16years and have been taking medication 6years and inertia has been a big problem for me. Could this be more of a problem now because you are not working you have less reason to get up. Or could it be a side effect of your medication or perhaps your medication is less effective as you have been taking it a while. I wish i could give you advice but i cant this is a real problem for me too.

Abigail66

Rachiee...thanks so much for the reply. it is actually really helpful to hear someone else is going through this and it does make a difference! not that I would wish this on anyone....

Abigail66

thanks so much, that book might be worth reading for me

Abigail66

Thanks a lot. It is very helpful to hear I am not alone. I appreciate the reply.

Abigail66

Thanks Ross, yes I think it is important to get help. I did make appointment with doctor for Monday. Your reply is much appreciated

Abigail66

sorry i think the first reply i sent you was in answer to someone else...thanks for your reply here. It is someone consoling to hear of others with similar problems and yes I do think it probably is the depression and perhaps I should go to my doctor...thanks a million

Abigail66

Hi I thought I was replying to everyone individually..not used to this site yet...but seems that it comes out underneath..anyway thanks everyone for taking the time, it is actually very helpful to hear the thoughts of complete strangers and I appreciate your time in replying