Should i tell her??

anon123123

Hi all,

I'm in a bit of a dilemma here. I got to know this girl through work over the last few months. I'm a 29 yr old male and she's 25. We have been flirting back and forth with each other for the last while and we have being pretty close.

The thing is that she's MARRIED and it is in trouble. I would never do anything to jeopardize a marriage but i really care for her. As I don't want to be the rebound guy or cause any further tension on her marriage, I am going to tell her that we can only have a working relationship from now on. Am I right in your opinion?

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Cheers

stargazer 68

anon123123 wrote: »

Hi all,

I'm in a bit of a dilemma here. I got to know this girl through work over the last few months. I'm a 29 yr old male and she's 25. We have been flirting back and forth with each other for the last while and we have being pretty close.

The thing is that she's MARRIED and it is in trouble. I am going to tell her that we can only have a working relationship from now on.

Okay OP
1. STOP the flirting!
2. How do you know the marriage is in trouble? Has she told you? Maybe shes just telling you this to make you her 'bit on the side'
3. Yes tell her exactly that!

You dont want to cause further tension in her marriage - you already are! Find a girl who is single!

Payton

It amazes me when I see a post like this. As you have pointed out she is MARRIED.....what are you expecting from this??.
Presuming your an adult, and not in the habit of destroying other people's marriages do yourself a big favor and walk away.
Sorry RUN...

curlzy

If you don't want to be the bad guy here tell her it's purely professional from now on and move on. This isn't rocket science OP.

Lorna123

Wait until the marriage is officially over before you enter into any relationship with this woman. You cannot trust what she says about her marriage until she is divorced.

cantdecide

As a general point, always always always watch out for the flirty ones. More often than not it means absolutely nothing so enjoy it for what it is; casual flirting.

In this case, maybe she has eyes for you, maybe she hasn't. All you can do at this stage is be honourable and leave her sort out her own life. She may be using you for emotional support or [being cynical for a sec] an ego boost in times of difficulty but you can only assume at this stage that it's all about her. If it ultimately leads to something between you two then great but you will only bring trouble into your life if she invites you to interfere. All you can do is just cool the flirting down in such a way that she knows something has changed.

tinkerbell

OP she's married. Go flirt with a woman who is single and stop deluding yourself thinking she's interested.

Irish_Elect_Eng

Walk Away.

Idle Passerby

This is a lost cause. If the marriage is indeed on the rocks (it may well not be) you'll be labelled the bad guy if it ends. Plus you'l be in the middle of a crap storm. If its not in trouble she's just getting her jollies flirting with you then going home to the husband while your the mug going home alone.

It doesn't matter how lovely she is, or how bad the marriage is, she's not available. And I don't say that out of respect for the sanctity of wedlock, I say it because you'd be getting into a very complicated and ultimately degrading situation to pursue this girl.

82344

I'd say youre better off looking else where. 25 is too young for her to be married anyway. It sounds like she doesn't really know what she wants.
good luck