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  • 28-11-2012 9:35pm
    #1
    paulap
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43 ✭


    where to start, relationship ended in spt due to lies cheating and thieft. Knew nothing of all untill then, he was an exceptional liar had us all fooled. the problem is i hate what he did but cant get it out of my head (there are legal issues with him now ...the thieft) i loved him truly and although trying to move on.....avoiding men for now......im finding it really hard any advice? :(


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  • #2
    Lorna123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,116 ✭✭✭Lorna123


    The only advice I can give you is that this relationship is never going to work so don't contemplate trying to renew it. Of course you feel bad, who wouldn't if they had been treated like this by someone whom they thought loved them. It is very hard to take OP, but you have got to move on. What you have to now do is build up a new social life and to do this you have to go out and have fun and meet up with others. Staying in and mulling over this will get you nowhere. This guy is never going to change, you can forget that. It is very difficult to move on from a situation like this but you are only 3 months on so give yourself a chance. The only way you can get a new perspective on life is to fill your life with new things, get out and do things you haven't done before, join clubs, meet new people. Best of Luck.


  • #3
    paulap
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43 ✭paulap


    cheers Lorna
    doing my best and as u said its only been 3 months so im hoping once i get over xmas it will be easier
    thanks for your support and advice
    :)


  • #4
    nowyouresix
    Closed Accounts Posts: 201 ✭✭nowyouresix


    The only advice I can give is that it will get better. Believe me, you will gain strength again, in time. Surround yourself with positive people, let yourself grieve it, have a good cry from time to time. I know it's not easy. Some people say build a bridge and get over it, I however don't go with that one....I prefer to say let it go. Good people often have bad things happen to them, but things have a funny way of turning around in time, and things will turn around for you too. Keep well, and if you need to go and talk/get some professional help, do so. You are the bigger person in all of this, his comeuppance will come to him, but you need to be patient and good to yourself.
    Best of luck :)


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