Meeting "The One". Right Person. Wrong Time.

LegacyUser

Just wondering what people's thoughts are on this. I think. I am fairly sure that things have just ended with someone who I thought I had the potential to spend the rest of my days with.

However, the reasons for the ending make perfect sense in that we are both at different places in our lives right now. Then, you might say, how can that person be "the one"?

Well, I am at an age where I know what I don't want, and know what I do want. I met someone a few months ago, who I would have briefly met from time to time in the last few years. I knew who she was, what she was like, and always thought that it would be great to hook up with her. I made a decision the last few years not to get involved with someone until I felt it was right, and this was someone I wanted to get involved with, and I did.

And so it came to pass. She ticked all my boxes, and even boxes I didn't realise could be ticked. Even stuff she was into, it was like a double of what I was into. I know that she had come from a place of hurt in the recent past, and had been kicking around the idea about getting out of Ireland for a while. In hindsight, getting into a relationship is probably the last thing she needs, and I accept it, hard and all as it is. I would also never discourage anyone from seeing another country or getting a chance to live abroad. I do feel that in an ideal world, she could have been "the one".

In reality, there are some emotional wounds that need to be healed for her. In reality, it's the wrong time for her to get involved with someone. Bloody timing eh!?! So, I suppose it's a case of moving on with things now.

Have you ever been in this position? How do you look back on it? How did you move on from it? Did you ever bump into them again years later and wonder "what if........."?

LegacyUser

Were the reasons for the breakup that she is leaving the country? Has she left? Imo the one would be the one under any circumstance. Can't you travel too?

LegacyUser

Yes and no, a lot of baggage, which is one of the reasons they are leaving too. If someone asked me at gunpoint, could you quite possibly stay with that person for the rest of your life, I would say "yes". I have not been with them long enough to even remotely say "hey, you know what, guess where I'm going.........". But if I were asked in the morning to go, I would more than likely say "yes".........

I'm a hopeless romantic dreamer............

Queen-Mise

Look you might get together in the future again - a year or two abroad hopefully will do her good. Don't necessarily wait for her - move on with your life.

I understand though - the thoughts you are having on her being the 'one'. I have heard a lot of stories on people getting back together after a few years apart - this might happen for you.

LegacyUser

Well, this was all from my point of view! A scary coincidence could come into play yet....