Would love to know if you ladies think I should cut all ties..

topsandtails

Okay.. So I bumped into a guy six months ago that I knew way back in college. We kissed one night when we were 21!
We're both 28 now.
The chemistry we had was something crazy the night we bumped into each other.
We found it very hard not to keep each others hand off of each other.
Ended up hooking up and it was really lovely, then saw each other a few times a week for a couple of weeks.. Then nothing.
Out of the blue we would meet up again and have a mind blowing time. Then again, see each other maybe 3/4 days after then not see each other for three weeks.

At the start, I told him I liked him & lived hanging out. But that I didn't want anything serious. I'm not that capable of loving anyone (sounds dramatic & that I'm severely damaged but I'm not really!) and just to enjoy what we have. He said the same.

Thing is it's six months down the line and here I am like an idiot, thinking about him all the time.

Before anyone says.. Girl, you're a booty call, get with the programme.. I haven't sleep with him the last five times we've been out.

When we're together he makes me feel amazing. He's so touchy feely & really, anyone would think we were madly in love.
We're so open with each other (apart from talking about us!) and know everything about each other. He's always saying 'you would love my mum' and me the same.

He doesn't really ask me out anywhere, I've been to his apartment and met his two female room mates. Unless they warned him off me?!

All my friends have met him, think we're destined to be with each other & they all love him.

When we're together I try to bring up the fact that I'd like us to make a go of things. I know that he knows what I'm trying to say (I never spit it out!) all he says is, 'I really enjoy hanging out with you'

I'm pretty much always the one to suggest something to do or come over. And he nearly always jumps at every opportunity.

He's not shy, far from it, quiet vocal..
If he had any feelings for me, do you think he would say something?!

I'm afraid to lay it on the line, 'cause if I do and he's not at all interested I've list him completely.

I'm usually the one to say to girlfriends, if he likes you a lot. He will call. He will ask you out. He will tell you how he feels...

I'm so confused. Would love a few opinions..

Rossin

this will be moved to pi!

from a boys perspective. tell him you want to give it a go, he'll either be up for it or end it. You say you're afraid to lose him by doing this, if you wait a year and then say it and lose him you'll be sorry you waited so long imo

g'luck!

Lucyfur

Moved from tLL.

Sauve

OP from my experience, and I hate to generalise but here goes-
You need to be blunt with guys. No signals, no hints, just come straight out and say 'I like you a lot and would like something more than friendship'.
Id guess that he's taking your original statement that youre incapable of loving someone as still being true, and will believe that until you tell him otherwise.

Just take a deep breath and tell him, or you'll only spend forever wondering 'what if'

tinkerbell

OP, life's too short to just wait around. Tell him how you feel. If he feels the same, great, if not - at least you know where you stand and you can move on.

Da Shins Kelly

Just tell him straight out that you'd like something more and see what he says. That way, if he does want something more too, you can start on that, and if he doesn't, then you can move on. It saves you from wasting your time either way.

curlzy

Just tell him OP. He was probably disappointed when you said you weren't capable of love and so put it out of his mind. He won't know you've changed your mind unless you tell him! Be fair to him and you, tell him!

Balmed Out

topsandtails wrote: »

At the start, I told him I liked him & lived hanging out. But that I didn't want anything serious.

You put a constraint on the relationship at the beginning so it's up to you to ask how he would feel about it being removed. He wont want to sound too eager or desperate when you stated categorically that you didnt want anything serious.

R.D. aka MR.D

I agree with the other posters, you need to say it to him.

You need to find out or else you will keep torturing yourself.