Should I buy him a Christmas present?

LegacyUser

I have dating a guy for the last six weeks, everything has been going really well and we both really like each other. We havn't yet had the chat so we're not offically going out. What I'm wondering is should I get him a Christmas present and if so what would be good present to get for him given we're only dating and have only been for short while? How much should I spend or how much should I not exceed if I do get him something? I'd like to get him something but I don't want to get something too small incase he thinks I'm mean but if I buy something expensive he might think I'm getting too serious and that might frighten him off. All advice would be really helpful

sffc

christmaspresents wrote: »

I have dating a guy for the last six weeks, everything has been going really well and we both really like each other. We havn't yet had the chat so we're not offically going out. What I'm wondering is should I get him a Christmas present and if so what would be good present to get for him given we're only dating and have only been for short while? How much should I spend or how much should I not exceed if I do get him something? I'd like to get him something but I don't want to get something too small incase he thinks I'm mean but if I buy something expensive he might think I'm getting too serious and that might frighten him off. All advice would be really helpful

Okay - think we need to know how old you both are and are you both working before we can consider how much to spend OP ..
But as a general rule I'd be saying something small, but certainly a card - "someone special " should ideally be on it perhaps.

Jimmy Rabbitte Snr

Definitely get him something. Make it something small and thoughtful without being too "novelty". Tickets to a gig or comedian maybe? You can probably take comfort in the fact that he is most likely wondering the same thing!!!

P. Breathnach

Get him something amusing that is not too naff or too expensive (there is a bit of "it's the thought that counts" in that approach).

A well-chosen book might do the trick - perhaps even a book of cartoons.

Esoteric_

I second the gig/comedy tickets 'cause that way if he hasn't bought you anything, there won't be any embarrassment on either side because you can say you bought them for a date.

CaraMay

Yeah the tickets or a book are a good idea. Still a bit of time to go before you need to act and ye may be exclusive by then

Roisy7

I'd be a bit careful with the tickets incase (and I hope it doesn't come to pass) ye break up. Once heard of a a couple who had the biggest row imaginable over concert tickets bought before they broke up- he wanted them back because he bought them and she saw them as hers and wanted to bring a friend etc etc. Very bitter stuff!

Is there something he really likes, something a bit quirky? It really would be the thought that counts at this stage of the relationship and not the expense!

Merry Xmas OP and hope ye have many more together!

sffc

Roisy7 wrote: »

I'd be a bit careful with the tickets incase (and I hope it doesn't come to pass) ye break up. Once heard of a a couple who had the biggest row imaginable over concert tickets bought before they broke up- he wanted them back because he bought them and she saw them as hers and wanted to bring a friend etc etc. Very bitter stuff!

Is there something he really likes, something a bit quirky? It really would be the thought that counts at this stage of the relationship and not the expense!

Merry Xmas OP and hope ye have many more together!

Just a little note to the OP if considering tickets and how giving them as a present works of fails . Obviously plane/travel tickets are exception but we are really talking about gig /theatre tickets etc which are tranferrable .
You cant give two tickets to someone and take it for granted you will be taken on the second ticket ! What you are really doing in that instance is giving one ticket and keeping the other in you pocket which really isn't nice . Not saying you will be thinking this way but its a mistake a lot of people make . Tickets as pressie work best if its for something you aren't going to go on/to yourself with your OH .
Overall OP try and suss out if he's getting you anything . Hope you two have a nice xmas !

Lorna123

Yes I agree with that, tickets are not a gift really, they are not something you can keep or treasure. There used to be a shop on the top floor of Jervis Street that had all kinds of gadgets that you could give a guy as a present. I once saw a nice ornament there in the shape of a car with a clock embedded on the bonnet and I thought this would be a nice gift to give to a guy, something like that, or a silver biro that you could have his initials engraved on.

Irish_Elect_Eng

If you do give him a gift, give it to him a few days before Christmas, if he has not got you a present because he was unsure if it was appropriate then that gives him time to respond and avoids any imbalance. Only you will be able to gauge the type and cost of the present to ensure that it is appropriate.

On the pen idea, a girl I was dating one gave me a nice silver pen engraved with her "I love to hear your voice" and her phone number.

Another suggestion would be one of those hideous Christmas Jumpers, you know the ones :-) Perhaps with a card "You dress so well, I knew you would not have one of these"

A fun one that I remember from a younger student friend. He was dating a girl and she would often come back to his flat where she would join in with his friends playing a soccer game on a console, at Christmas, she gave him and extra controller, said sh did not want him left out :-)

It is a good opportunity to show that you have being paying attention to what he likes, a gift that reflects one of his interests is less likely to be seen as threatening or meaning anything more than simply a gift.

sparkthatbled

I think it's up to you to decide if you want to get him something. If you have been enjoying your time together, it's only right to show it with a thoughtful gift. If you can't think of something he'd like try to go shopping together or something and watch for clues about what he might like.

You also need to ask yourself if you would be offended if he got you nothing or something very small like a box of chocolates and a card. Remember that he's probably as indecisive as you about it, so try not to read too much into it if he doesn't get you anything.

I don't think you should give his present earlier than the last time you meet before xmas because this could equally look like you're giving only to get in return.

On the other hand, maybe you should just come right out and talk about it, ask his opinion. He may appreciate that you are open and honest about it, even relieved to be on the same page.

Snoopy1

christmaspresents wrote: »

I have dating a guy for the last six weeks, everything has been going really well and we both really like each other. We havn't yet had the chat so we're not offically going out. What I'm wondering is should I get him a Christmas present and if so what would be good present to get for him given we're only dating and have only been for short while? How much should I spend or how much should I not exceed if I do get him something? I'd like to get him something but I don't want to get something too small incase he thinks I'm mean but if I buy something expensive he might think I'm getting too serious and that might frighten him off. All advice would be really helpful

I think you should have the chat first, to determine if your going out or not.
I find 6 weeks is a long time.
If he says nah just having fun, theres no point getting him anything.