Facebook control!

alant7

I de-activated my account for a while, just to get over an ex, I have logged back in & deleted her, but feel like I still cant use FB for another while, just reminds me of her plus all the photos are still there so v hard.. has anyone ever felt like this too,, shame really but suppose I dont really miss it that much I think

ShaShaBear

alant7 wrote: »

I de-activated my account for a while, just to get over an ex, I have logged back in & deleted her, but feel like I still cant use FB for another while, just reminds me of her plus all the photos are still there so v hard.. has anyone ever felt like this too,, shame really but suppose I dont really miss it that much I think

If you're not bothered, then not to worry, but if you would like to get back on, why not just make another email address and create a new Facebook. You can search for friends on your old one, and maybe ask a mate or two to tag you in photos that she isn't in, so you can get them onto your new profile

alant7

good idea.. well maybe I do miss it a bit,,, may give it a go in the future , cheers!

shampooman

Man - that sucks! Facebook make it really hard to get rid of it. You have to delete it permanently and then you have to not log in for 3 weeks in order for the full deletion process to take place. I was pretty much in the same exact situation as you. In regards to your ex well you deleted her so looks like you wont be getting any updates from her on your news feed. You can delete your pictures of her although I'd imagine that this would be a fairly bitter/sweet.

What you need to do is just keep yourself active, go to the gym,go out with friends,plan a trip away or get involved with team sports. All this helped me. Don't do what I did though regarding going on dates straight away or typical rebound one night stand thing..It made me feel worse.

Be strong man, try not to get too down and no matter how gut wrenching it may feel not you're not alone and will get through it. Plenty of hot, cool and interesting women out there.

alant7

thanks shampoo man, good advice, ya Im not ready for a relationship yet I haven been with anyone neither my head ain't right, but ya I do running but must get some more team sports going,
so I have de-activated/ is there a delete account button too??

msg11

alant7 wrote: »

thanks shampoo man, good advice, ya Im not ready for a relationship yet I haven been with anyone neither my head ain't right, but ya I do running but must get some more team sports going,
so I have de-activated/ is there a delete account button too??

To delete your full profile IE the stuff that's stored on there database servers you must e-mail them to fully delete it.

I don't the same deactiviated my account, didn't want us nosing around on each others pages so just got rid of it. Haven't looked back since.

shampooman

Good stuff Alan! Team sports helped me out a lot! Here is a link to article that tells you how to delete facebook permanently :

http://www.wikihow.com/Permanently-Delete-a-Facebook-Account

I was wrong in my original post once you press the delete button you have to not log in for 2 weeks ( not 3 weeks ) in order for the deletion process to take effect. Think carefully though..shame to lose contact with mates in Oz or Canada or other parts of the world.

Best of luck!

alant7

So Msg 11, you dont use Facebook anymore at all? brave move..

thinking of doing the same to be honest, think it should be called NosyBook not Facebook

but I do think it will help me & make me move on

alant7

very true shampoo man, when I logged back in last night, my mate from Canada emailed me,, & other mates in London ... tough one!

msg11

alant7 wrote: »

So Msg 11, you dont use Facebook anymore at all? brave move..

thinking of doing the same to be honest, think it should be called NosyBook not Facebook

but I do think it will help me & make me move on

My account is still in there database, if I was to log in now the account would be reactivated, I have been off it since around the end of June..

Has helped me out cause I have no idea what she is doing, who shes seeing to be honest I don't want to know either, but if it's easily available on Facebook you will have a noise.

alant7

ya true, I just deleted her there, so still gonna leave it de-activated cos still don't wanna use it,, funny when I did de-activate 1st time she text me straight away asking if id deleted her,, strange but like you say both of us prob snooping,,,, I couldnt be bothered anymore.
you use any other social sites?

shampooman

I've been through the same exact scenario as you Alan..when I de-activated mine I got a text pretty much straight away too. It's a tough one... like it or not it is a handy way of staying in touch. Unfortunately this day and age everyone seems to be more connected to their phones,laptops and use these social sites as their main vehicle to stay in touch. I think you did the right thing my deleting her so you wont be able to see her. Hold on to her number though because one day you may be able to be friends like I am with my ex. Regardless it sucks..relationships ending suck...find a good friend and talk it out over a few beers.

Best of luck and I'm telling you the truth it gets better!

msg11

alant7 wrote: »

ya true, I just deleted her there, so still gonna leave it de-activated cos still don't wanna use it,, funny when I did de-activate 1st time she text me straight away asking if id deleted her,, strange but like you say both of us prob snooping,,,, I couldnt be bothered anymore.
you use any other social sites?

Just this to be honest. Facebook is the only one that would interest me outside of this site. Twitter and the other ones I think that Facebook dose them already and good at that too so don't see the point in join them.

To be honest, if you want to use Facebook , I would start a new account and run with that.

alant7

the fact she lives in London & now Im in Dublin, is what is killing me, I may never see her again, she from abroad too, but me own fault, I left but guess she is getting on better now which Im happy, I just have to get to that place too.

msg11

alant7 wrote: »

the fact she lives in London & now Im in Dublin, is what is killing me, I may never see her again, she from abroad too, but me own fault, I left but guess she is getting on better now which Im happy, I just have to get to that place too.

You'll get there in the end. We have all been there it will eventually come to a close just takes time.

IrishEyes19

I personally wouldn't delete my account for the sake of an ex. You can actually block her without deleting your account, which she literarly doesnt exist if she posts on mutual friends walls and she cant find you online at all. you wont appear.

I just think deleting your connection to other people is letting her win, or letting the sadness of the situation win out. Just block her. Dont cut your ties with others.

alant7

yes, you could be right Irish eyes, but its all the photos on my account of her that hits me hard, so gonna stay off it for few months now, just dont wanna see them, plus hard to delete them without looking at them,,, tedious job

Stavro Mueller

Would you be OK with getting a friend to come over and have them delete them for you?

alant7

suppose I would, to be honest, still maybe after Christmas!

alant7

but problem is,, I cannot delete photos that other people have put up of us,

have to individually email them, which is a bit arduos

protosByte

I'm going through something similar OP. Life can really be sh*t sometimes. Regarding facebook, I just unfriended and blocked her. I had a load of photos of us together as well. so I just gritted my teeth, went through them and untagged myself from all of them. It wasn't much fun to put it mildly, but once it's done, it's done.

alant7

yes that is true, Maybe I will do it over a few whiskeys!

Taltos

OP - as you have received advice on how to proceed and this thread is turning more into a discussion we are going to close it now.

Wishing you all the best, take as much time as you need before (if) you go back to facebook and remember the suggestions of calling on friends to help out.

Best of luck
Taltos