Can't seem to get him out of my head

gayguy2009

About 2 months ago I got a text off a guy I used to see. We were seeing each other for a few months last year, but I cut him off because I did not trust him. I really liked him, but I think he was only interested in the sex.

I blocked him on fb, just for my own good so i wasn't tempted to look him up. Any way he started texting me about 2 months ago asking me how i was and that. We agreed to head out, but I didn't hear from him after that. I didn't bother my arse running after him.

Fast forward again and I see him in a club. I walked by him to meet my friends and we both saw each other, but he never even bothered saying hi.I remember last year he I saw him and he came over to me straight away. I don't know why its bugging me so much. He just seems like a different person.

One of my friends who also knows this guy told me he is one of those people that just tries to fit in with the crowd and acts like he is one of the coolest nicest guys in the world. She also told me he's tried serious drugs before.

I don't know exactly why I'm writing this. I guess its just to vent and get some advice. I know he is not good for me, but I really liked him.

Stavro Mueller

You're torn between your head and your heart basically.You obviously liked this guy, enjoyed the attention you got from him and had some good times. But all the time there was that little alarm bell going off in your head. From what you've written, it does look like he only wanted you for sex and once that was off the table, he lost interest.

It is hurtful to be blanked by someone you like but it just reinforces your original suspicion. If he genuinely liked you as a person or someone to date, he'd not have done what he did. The texting may have been his way of trying to get you onside again but he lost interest. Perhaps because someone else came on the scene. Who knows? You can make excuses all you want about him doing drugs or trying to fit in but it doesn't change things for you.

In my opinion, you did do the right thing by cutting contact. Your gut was telling you that he was/is no good for you. This being the case, it was never going to end well for you. You nipped it in the bud so to speak so you're hurting. If you had let things drag on then for some reason it had ended, you'd still be hurting. And perhaps a bit damaged from the lack of trust and because you may have become more emotionally invested in him.

Although you feel like crap, keep doing what you're doing. Keep him blocked on FB, don't reply to his texts if he resurfaces, stay busy and go out with your friends. It's a cliche but time is a healer. It has only been a year and not everyone can get over someone in that time.

sffc

Ask yourself this OP - are you really open to all opinions that we post?
I'm not saying you are purposely doing this but if we say ignore him I don't think it'll stop you if you want to make contact again. If we say give him a chance I think you'll take it to head in his direction.
All I can say is if you want to have a go have a go. But you know the dangers. Have your hand on the eject button just in case!