Should I buy them something or leave it

LegacyUser

Hi,

Have a bit of a predicament at the moment. Its coming up to christmas as you know.
this year for once Im not single. I have an amazing girl who has made the last 7 months of the year incredible and brightened my outlook on all of life. She has been the flame in the dark for me.

Now Im obviously going to get her something nice for christmas. Im planning already, which is new as normally an hour on the 21/22 allows me get it done.

The thing is I know her sister a bit now and her parents. I was thinking should I get them something small, or would that be a bit too much. Was thinking a bottle of wine for the parents as they love their wine very much. Then for her sister I was going to get a spa treatment for the two of them! What do you think, or would I be more wise in just getting something for my girlfriend?

stargazer 68

Op if you are going to their house over xmas then a bottle of wine for the parents would be lovely but I would stick with just that IMO

Czarcasm

I'd suggest you would just get your girlfriend something, not that getting the rest of her family something small isn't a nice thought, but to my knowledge anyway it's not really the done thing after only seven months together? Other posters might know better though, or maybe even ask your girlfriend what she thinks?

Zen 2nd

Bottle of wine for the parents seem grand, I wouldn't get the sister anything though.

sffc

"Where would ya be going without a tin of biscuits under your arm this week ?" a mother of a friend of mine joked years ago and very true -for that week or so between Christmas and New Year anyway .
My advice is put 90% of your efforts and money into the gf's pressie . You've been going out now for seven months so make it a good' ne . As for the mam and dad - yea, a btl of wine is perfect for when you visit their house over the season . As for the sister - nah wouldnt go there ...there's no need and it might seem a little weird tbh . Sisters are a strange breed for the boyfriend - be very careful !
NBAvoid giving a voucher or ticket and then telling the person who to bring by the way - it mightened be appreciated .

Sinall

+1 for the bottle of wine for the parents suggestion. If the sister is going to be there when you call over then maybe a bottle of wine/box of chocs/some small token for her as well. The spa day is probably a bit too much at this stage

tinkerbell

It'd be completely inappropriate for you to buy her sister a gift, if I were the sister I'd find it completely odd tbh. Buy your gf a gift. If you are visiting her at her parents house over Christmas, bring a bottle of wine and a nice tin of biscuits or chocolates with you. That's more than enough.

ShaShaBear

If you think your gf would really love a spa treatment, then get her two, and say she can take someone along (I dunno about anyone else, but I'd have to be with someone at something like that!). She might ask you to come along for the fun, maybe she'd rather ask her best friend, or maybe even her mum or her sister. Whoever she takes, she will obviously tell that you got her two of them so she could bring a friend, they'll think that's sweet
As for the family, if they're really big into their wines, they probably have a favourite that would be a bit on the pricey side (Now when I say pricey, I mean anything over 20 quid ) and in this economy, I find buying someone a present, especially a pricey one, makes the other party feel guilty and they feel they have to get you something in return. If you are invited over, I would take a nice bottle of wine and perhaps a tin of roses or something for everyone present to share. You're not showing up empty handed and if you have the bit of extra cash to get what you know is the parentals favourite wine, it paints you as a good listener as well

ManOfMystery

I don't think you should buy the sister a gift explicitly. However, if it's affordable (and I presume it is anyway), give the spa day to your gf anyway and suggest she take the sister along. That way the sister still gets to say thanks for something nice you've done without the awkwardness of accepting a present which isn't really given to brothers/sisters at this early stage of the relationship ...................... win/win.

IrishEyes19

Buy your gf her pressie, and if your going to the house, wine and chocolates for the parents are grand. Other than that no. And even if you were going out three years, I wouldnt see any reason to buy a gift for anyone else in her family unless there was a secret santa style thing going on.

Bambii_

I think thats a lovely idea to be honest. I think the spa treatment is a bit much for the sister, but maybe get her one of the little sets from boots or something small along them lines.

Unlike alot of people here seem to say, I don't think there is anything wrong with buying for the sister. It's unnecessary, but sweet. I think it would show that you're trying to get on with the family.

Valentina

Buy your g/f a present and bring the parents a nice bottle of wine when you visit over the festive period. Don't buy the sister a present - I think it's unnecessary and may be misinterpreted.

castle

Do not buy her sister a xmas present are you mad(imagine she buys you one) have one for back up, this happened to me I was dating a girl from another Country and on xmas eve which is the day they celebrate what do I get a present from her Sister and her brother:eek:, quick think from me you will have to wait until Xmas day as me been Irish I only give prsents on that day,;)
ended up marrying this girl and I still get prsents for xmas of her family, so be warned maybe have a little back up and if you don't receive from her sister then your GF get another gift:)

amtc

I'm in two minds. If you're buying a gift for the parents and for the gf, you don't want her to be the only one without anything. So why not but one for your gf and one for rest of the family which should solve your problem. I'm assuming at this stage it's a visit over Christmas not the day itself!
As well ascertain what her family are like - we just give token gifts (as irthdays much more important)but my cousins are expected to give gifts to even casual gfs/bfs (which in a secret santa was funny as my aunt had to spend €100 on a girl she's never met and was not best pleased!).
Also - very out there thought - ask your girlfriend her advice!

doyle61

Personally ild buy a nice bottle of wine. Plenty of really good ones to be got for the €20 mark. Go to the likes of o brians and get advice off one of the staff and you wont go wrong. Ild bring a box of hand made chocolates aswell for around €10-15. Bring that when your visiting and you'll look like a great lad however I wouldn't get a present for the sister; no need to do that at all


Ps make sure you get your girlfriend a really nice present though and stay away from gift cards (I made that mistake before lol)