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LegacyUser

Hi I want people’s opinions on this.

I’m in my late 30s, I’ve a steady job good home I’m single and I don’t feel the rush to find anyone while I like being on my own and doing my own things I’ve had couple people asking me why I don’t have a girlfriend? I turn around and say I don’t feel I need one, I do enjoy my own company. I was in a relationship and felt like a chore to do things with her i.e. go to meeting her friends and family, doing this and that, I had at one stage found myself making excuses not to be out. I’ve been on dating sites have spoken to few women but nothing happens. (I've uses few escorts etc..)


I like meeting up with family now and then but sometimes I feel forced to meet them, don’t get me wrong I love them to bits and visit them now and then and ring them when not visiting them.

I do have a few acquaintances I meet up now and then, don’t have a long term friend to rely on. I enjoy watching various TV or DVDs Friday/Saturday I like staying up bit late watching stuff, I don’t go out to much but when I do it’s just either going for walks or visiting a mate for bit, I do go to pubs maybe once every week just have few jars.


I guess I want to know is this sad or normal? I’m not depressed nor anything, I enjoy my own company at times.

Thanks for reading

ManOfMystery

Whilst 'normal' might imply meeting a partner, getting married, house & kids etc ....................... all that really means is that it's what most people do. There's no reason for you to pigeonhole yourself into a certain situation because some people wonder why you don't conform to their notion of normality.

There's really only one question you have to ask yourself : Are you happy?

If you're happy with your life right now, and content in your own company right now, then I don't see any reason why you would need to change it. The only thing I would ask you to consider is your future, and to think about how you would feel 10 or 20 years down the line if you're still single - would you be fine on your own or does the thought of getting older alone scare you?

Although you had a partner before and didn't really relish spending time with them, I'd argue (and I could be wrong) that this could have been due to your choice of partner? If you were with someone you were more into, you'd probably be more inclined to enjoy spending time with them and it could enrich your life more. Just something to consider.

edellc

What's normal op ?

As long as you are happy with your life choices who cares what others think

RossFixxxed

You seem happy with yourself and your way of doing things. You're not messing with anyone else's happiness.... Nothing at all wrong there. That's what most people strive for ultimately, though their goals may differ.

Bambii_

If you're happy with your life as it is then don't feel pressured to change. If you give in and settle for what your friends and family think is the norm, then you could very well end up unhappy. Be true to yourself OP and do what is best for you.

NicoleL88

Pretty much going to echo what everyone else is saying:

If you're content with your life the way it is, then that's great, and you shouldn't have to feel like you need to be with someone, do particular things etc just to fit what you may think is "normal".

If you feel as though something is missing, then try figure out what it is and go after it!

summerlucey

Smile and be happy if your content with your life then who else matters! Some peolpe are happy on their own and nobody has the right to judge.