Unable to make friends?

LegacyUser

Hi so I've just started my 7th week in college and so far I only have one friend. I only managed to become friends with her because we share a house so I see her all the time. It's not that people aren't friendly, they are and they're easy to chat to but its difficult to become friends because you don't really see them again and when I do see them they're usually with their own friends. I've joined lots of clubs and societies but it seems like everybody already has made friends and I'm too shy to approach groups. What do I do? I feel like I've missed out on my chance of making any friends How long did it take you to make friends in college?

Vicxas

Dont try and force it, making friends when you're an adult is tough but not impossible. You have made 1 friend which is a great start.

Just keep plugging away at what you're doing, you're doing all the right things. Eventually it will come good.

LegacyUser

Hi OP, I was in an absolute panic when I started college because I didn't make friends very quickly. But after three months everything had sorted itself out. It just depends the main thing is not to internalise the problem.

Roisy7

I agree with the above posters. Two of my good friends I made in the first weeks of college were still good mates of mine in fourth year, but a lot fell by the wayside and I made newer ones- it's a really topsy-turvy period and things change.

Btw, in UL, they run a programme called the first seven weeks. Apparently these are the toughest weeks in all of college and it's aimed to support students through this. Just to let you know, you're not alone in finding it tough!

Good luck OP

LegacyUser

Thanks everyone I guess I'm just a bit worried because I see everyone else going around in groups but I feel a bit better after reading your replies

CillianL

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Hi so I've just started my 7th week in college and so far I only have one friend. I only managed to become friends with her because we share a house so I see her all the time. It's not that people aren't friendly, they are and they're easy to chat to but its difficult to become friends because you don't really see them again and when I do see them they're usually with their own friends. I've joined lots of clubs and societies but it seems like everybody already has made friends and I'm too shy to approach groups. What do I do? I feel like I've missed out on my chance of making any friends How long did it take you to make friends in college?

I'm in college two years myself, and its been the case with myself and a lot of my friends from outside college that its hard to make good friends at third level, but just give it time as the breaking in period can take months before people become relaxed in each others company. None of your friends from secondary school were made overnight, even though looking back it seemed easy you know?

Seven weeks doesn't mean that the plane is long gone and you're stuck in the Sahara, just have patience and keep trying and if things refuse to stick just let other friends sustain you and have the confidence to know its not your fault