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Engagement rings for gay couples?

  • 12-11-2012 7:08pm
    #1
    Petey89
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 198 ✭✭


    Was just wondering about this has anyone who has had a civil partnership got engagement rings before hand? Is it something gay couples do or not or is it up to the couple wheither they want engagement rings or not?


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  • #2
    Vojera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,812 ✭✭✭Vojera


    It's up to the couple themselves, I reckon. If it's something that feels right for you, do it. Or if you feel like it's not something important to you, don't bother. You could spend the money on a weekend away instead :)

    My girlfriend and I never actually proposed to each other, we just always said that marriage was in our future . We got rings sort of randomly, the OH got some tax back and surprised me, but we didn't spend much, just €300 for the pair. We could have done without them, but they were sort of a way for us to show my family (not v supportive) that we were serious about a future together. Not the only reason we got them of course :)


  • #3
    RiseToMe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,278 ✭✭✭RiseToMe


    Myself and my, now wife, got rings. She proposed to me with a white gold band and about a year later I got her a white gold band.

    For the wedding we got plain gold bands made and engraved and they sit together very nicely.

    I think it's up to the couple tho.


  • #4
    Petey89
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 198 ✭✭Petey89


    Vojera wrote: »
    It's up to the couple themselves, I reckon. If it's something that feels right for you, do it. Or if you feel like it's not something important to you, don't bother. You could spend the money on a weekend away instead :)

    My girlfriend and I never actually proposed to each other, we just always said that marriage was in our future . We got rings sort of randomly, the OH got some tax back and surprised me, but we didn't spend much, just €300 for the pair. We could have done without them, but they were sort of a way for us to show my family (not v supportive) that we were serious about a future together. Not the only reason we got them of course :)
    Yeah thats what I was thinking, We are dudes so i was just wondering if guys did it lol, like i wouldnt want a big diamond ring or anything blingy. but when the time comes it would be nice to have something to show that we were engaged, nothing expensive either.


  • #5
    Vojera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,812 ✭✭✭Vojera


    Petey89 wrote: »
    Yeah thats what I was thinking, We are dudes so i was just wondering if guys did it lol, like i wouldnt want a big diamond ring or anything blingy. but when the time comes it would be nice to have something to show that we were engaged, nothing expensive either.

    I don't see why you can't. I think it's nice to have some sort of signifier of your commitment to each other. You could always get a plain band (or whatever your tastes are) and just wear it on your wedding finger. Our rings aren't "engagement rings" either, they're just rings we liked, so you can be as blingy or as subtle as you like :)

    Some people put rings on necklaces and wear them that way. It's personally not to my taste, but not everyone likes to wear rings.


  • #6
    Petey89
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 198 ✭✭Petey89


    Vojera wrote: »
    I don't see why you can't. I think it's nice to have some sort of signifier of your commitment to each other. You could always get a plain band (or whatever your tastes are) and just wear it on your wedding finger. Our rings aren't "engagement rings" either, they're just rings we liked, so you can be as blingy or as subtle as you like :)

    Some people put rings on necklaces and wear them that way. It's personally not to my taste, but not everyone likes to wear rings.
    yeah id like something plain and simple too and i would wear it on my wedding finger, I did read somewhere too that some couples where it on the opposite hand sometimes if they didnt want people to know, so i suppose its really just down to the couple themselves :)


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