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regret calling it off

  • 12-11-2012 5:07pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So a few weeks ago i called it off with a guy i had been seeing for a few months, it was kind of mutual as we never really had time to see each other because of work and university. when we called it off it was along the lines of it cant work now but maybe in the future! we still have some contact and see each other every now and again. whenever we're together he is overly friendly/ flirty....
    i feel like im getting very mixed signals like he might want to try again but he never does anything.

    I'm starting to regret calling it off despite knowing i had good reasons at the time but whenever i see him it gets me thinking again! I'm looking for advice about what to do, friends have said to make him jealous a.k.a have him see me with another guy or to talk to him but I'm afraid to put myself out there.. Or should i just try focus on something else and avoid him altogether??


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  • #2
    P. Breathnach
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,089 ✭✭✭✭P. Breathnach


    Whatever you do, don't play mindgames: that wrecks people's heads.

    Why not ask him on a non-date date? Think of some place or event you would like to go to, and text him to say that none of your friends is available to go there with you: would he oblige?


  • #3
    Pippy1976
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,047 ✭✭✭Pippy1976


    anon87 wrote: »
    I'm starting to regret calling it off despite knowing i had good reasons at the time

    should i just try focus on something else and avoid him altogether??

    Point 1, you called it off for good reasons at the time. Unless those reasons have changed (you both have suddenly more time to spend with eachother) then leave it where it is. If your paths should cross romantically in the future then so be it.

    Point 2, focus on your studies, your friends, work and socialising. You'll get over this in time.

    Also, disregard your friends ridiculous advice of trying to make him jealous. You're not in the playground now.


  • #4
    sullies
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24 ✭sullies


    The 'make him jealous' idea is ridiculous! That will only put a wedge between you. Send him a friendly text, ask him to the cinema, pub for drink just to hang out-no serious date or anything. See how it goes. Once there, f you're comfortable together just drop it into the conversation.


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