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Single parent, rent allowance, etc. Don't know what to do.

  • 12-11-2012 12:59pm
    #1
    newtotown
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    My partner, son and I have been living in this house since February. I do not work and the house lease, bills and everything else is in my partner's name. I have been entirely dependant on him (by mutual decision) since our son was born six years ago when I gave up work (living in the UK at the time), and therefore I have nothing for myself.

    We split up last week after 12 years and he has vanished, taking all source of money with him. I have a couple of hundred euro in the house, and the rent for this month was paid the day before he left. Other than that my son and I have nothing.

    Would I be able to get help considering I can't prove a thing, as nothing is in my name? I don't even have photo ID as my passport expired in August and I have no money to renew it. I don't have family (parents dead, everyone else living in other countries) or anyone I can stay with.

    I know I'm stupid to have got myself into this situation but the relationship was so stable that it never crossed my mind to "insure" myself for future upheaval. He was always a devoted, dedicated family man who never left us wanting for anything. And now he's gone and I'm left with nothing and I don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.

    I have been applying for jobs like crazy but there is very little in this town, I don't drive, and I don't even know where to begin thinking about childcare costs.


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    edellc
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    newtotown wrote: »
    My partner, son and I have been living in this house since February. I do not work and the house lease, bills and everything else is in my partner's name. I have been entirely dependant on him (by mutual decision) since our son was born six years ago when I gave up work (living in the UK at the time), and therefore I have nothing for myself.

    We split up last week after 12 years and he has vanished, taking all source of money with him. I have a couple of hundred euro in the house, and the rent for this month was paid the day before he left. Other than that my son and I have nothing.

    Would I be able to get help considering I can't prove a thing, as nothing is in my name? I don't even have photo ID as my passport expired in August and I have no money to renew it. I don't have family (parents dead, everyone else living in other countries) or anyone I can stay with.

    I know I'm stupid to have got myself into this situation but the relationship was so stable that it never crossed my mind to "insure" myself for future upheaval. He was always a devoted, dedicated family man who never left us wanting for anything. And now he's gone and I'm left with nothing and I don't know what to do. Any advice would be appreciated.

    I have been applying for jobs like crazy but there is very little in this town, I don't drive, and I don't even know where to begin thinking about childcare costs.

    Firstly I would be concerned for the safety of my childs father regardless of if you are together or not, considering he has been in yours and your sons life since birth 6years ago and you split recently and now he has disappeared..this would worry me greatly, so if you havent already get in touch with his family to see if he is okay and the guards to report a missing person if his family dont know where he is

    You are meant to have a rent book and regardless of who pays the rent all tenants names should be on it and that includes you

    Go to your local social welfare office and start the process of loan parents since your partner is no longer around, they will give your the form to fill in and a list of all the documents that you need.

    While in the social welfare ask where your local community welfare officer is located most only sit in the mornings so check the times, then pay them a visit and explain the situation, they can help you with payments of monies until your loan parents is approved and rent allowance. It is a lot of form filling and a lot of documents are required but this is the process for everyone and if you dont do it you dont get help so be prepared.

    You will also need to apply to the council, the housing department to assess your housing needs, this is needed for your rent allowance..it is better to do this in the long run any way, again its best to go to them in the morning as sometimes there can be long q's

    most of all keep your chin up and be prepared to a busy few weeks doing all this

    However do keep applying for jobs as its best to be self sufficient rather than on welfare but it is there to help so start the process rolling as it can take time...also let your landlord know the situation as depending on you and how quickly you go to your local community welfare officer with all the documents required for rent allowance, it can take time to process and you will need info from your landlord for these documents so best get him on board early


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