what would you make of this.....

LegacyUser

I've been seeing a guy who lives in my area. He seems a nice guy and we seem to be getting on well. We met up during week and all went well and he made arrangements to met tonight (sat). We were going to just do a dvd night in. I got a text late this evening to say he cant make it but could we meet up for lunch tomorrow instead as hes shattered after training today. He lives around the corner from me and we were just going to sit in!!
I would just like to know what others would make of this. I was a bit peeved it was very late to cancel and I could have made other plans if i'd known earlier. I thought it was very selfish and inconsiderate of him. But am I being unrealistic....

edellc

Your being completely unrealistic OP and majorly over reacting.

He said he was wrecked from training, what time was training at? He could have finished, gone home had a shower and thought f*ck it im wrecked and not in the mood of company just want to veg on the sofa and go to bed early and he is well entitled to do this. What time where you going over for a dvd at op, surely if you still wanted to go out with mates all you had to do is give them a ring and see where they are and head on in yourself. Your hardly going over to him at pub closing time are you so you had plenty of time, it just wasn't the way you wanted it, and unfortunately that's life and when your in a relationship its not always me me me you have to compromise

He made arrangements to meet you today for lunch so its not as if he blew you off

So you have 2 choices

1. Loose the plot with him when you see him today and show yourself up for being a selfish, over reacting girlfriend. If you over react like this to such a small thing then does he really want to see the reaction if its something big or does he kick you to the curb now.

2. Accept want he said, he was wrecked from training, and move on with your relationship.

Seriously op take a chill pill and stop over thinking things.

King of Kings

i was wrecked from training yesterday too which finished at 4pm.
I fell asleep on the couch before match of the day started.

imagine that had happened with your date - you'd be pretty cheesed off.

LegacyUser

I'm not going to give out or loose the plot over this!!! I'm just threading carefully entering a new relationship and I posted just to get other peoples perspective on it.

I just felt telling me 5mins before you are due to come over is poor form and my evening didn't go ahead to plan so naturally I was a lil peeved. I think male or female you would be.

Edelic thanks for your reply but I'm not the type of girl everything is centered around me. I thought that was a little harsh. I believe you have to compromise and be decent when it comes to relationships. I feel decency escaped him when it came to cancelling last minute.

single sally

single sally wrote: »

He lives around the corner from me and we were just going to sit in!!

But am I being unrealistic....

Yes you're being unrealistic. Sitting in for a date isn't the same as crashing on your couch and falling asleep. He'd be expected to get showered, dressed, make himself all date-worthy, might not get a chance to get any food in before leaving for yours and then he'd have to spend a late night chatting and interacting if it led somewhere he might not get home till the next day and probably with no sleep. Best to just leave it until lunch today when he'll be in better sorts.

Was it literally five minutes beforehand?

LegacyUser

I think you are over-reacting. Why not just take him at his word that he was wrecked from training? I'd imagine because it was only a DVD night in he didn't think much of cancelling - it's not the same as arranging to go out for dinner etc. You were staying in anyway sort of thing. He also proposed meeting the following day at lunch so I really don't see the problem.

tony81

In my opinion, no you're not being unrealistic. Give him the benefit of the doubt if this is the first time but don't let it be a recurring thing.

username123

I dont think you are being unrealistic at all. You would have made preparations, perhaps nibbles, perhaps wine or beer bought and a dvd ready.

Very rude to cancel a date 5 minutes beforehand - even if it was just a sit in dvd date.

Id give the benefit of the doubt this time, but if he is someone who makes a habit of breaking arrangements then Id walk away.

woodchuck

I think anyone would be annoying at somebody cancelling at the last minute. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt this time, but if it happens again let him know that it bothers you and hopefully he'll be more considerate in future.